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Many women have trouble reaching orgasm.

According to Dr. Laurie Mintz, author of Becoming Cliterate, the average woman requires about 20 minutes of clitoral stimulation to climax, with a range from 15 minutes to 45 minutes. Only 1 to 4 percent of women consistently orgasm from vaginal penetration alone.

Many men are unaware of these issues, or are too impatient to spend the needed time. (There should be a law!)

Yet "if a partner spends twenty or more minutes on clitoral stimulation, 92 percent of women will orgasm." (p 132) In fact, "[t]here's a fairly new movement, called orgasmic meditation, in which a partner spends fifteen solid minutes rubbing just one part of a woman's clitoris (called 'OMing')."

On the other hand, when women masturbate by themselves, they typically climax in about 4 minutes, according to Mintz. And lesbian lovers typically orgasm more consistently, because the partners take the time needed to get the job done.

But 5% to 10% of women never experience orgasms.

Another source says that about 25% of women can climax from penis-in-vagina intercourse alone; most women need manual or other stimulation.

Most women have to learn how to have an orgasm, and a considerate partner should help her.

For most men, sex without orgasm would be frustrating and even uncomfortable. One of the questions explored in the survey and in the comments below is this: Are women generally unsatisfied with sex unless they climax? Or do women enjoy sex even without orgasm?

The implications of this information may be controversial. If it turns out that most women enjoy sex even without reaching orgasm, some men may use that as an excuse for rushing the sex act. If, on the other hand, most women are frustrated unless they climax, then it's important for men to know this fact.

Considering how difficult it is for many women to climax, one wonders: Does their difficulty cause problems with their relationships? Does it annoy their partners? Does it contribute to depression? Does it reflect other problems with the relationship? Does it affect the rest of their lives? These questions deserve detailed research.

Indeed, it's not entirely clear what the biological purpose of the female orgasm is. See this and this, for starters.

The Gershwin song "Nice work if you can get it" hints at the issues involved if the woman has trouble climaxing. If the woman is slow, the guy has to work to please her and to maintain his erection. Often he has to postpone his climax -- which can be quite difficult and frustrating -- or boring, if the guy has other things he'd rather be doing.

Wife says to husband, "You make love like you decorate." Husband replies, "What very slow and professional?" "No,"she replies, "I have to finish the job myself."

Both men and women need to learn how to increase female sexual satisfaction -- and male sexual satisfaction too, for that matter.

Note: many of the commenters ask for advice on achieving orgasm or increasing pleasure. Some of the comments are quite sad. I am not a sex therapist but I can recommend the following:

1. See a doctor or sex therapist if your sexual problems are a major concern, or if you have pain.
2. Women, don't be shy about telling your partner what you want. Direct your guy and tell him what to do with his hands, lips and penis. Men don't know what works unless you give feedback! (There are so many places to apply pressure and so many ways to do it. A guy can feel lost down there! A guy can't just rely on moans to figure out what works and what doesn't.)
3. Men, take your time. Don't rush to penetration. You owe it to your partner to delay your satisfaction. Kiss and touch your woman the way she wants to be touched: everywhere, but especially on her clitoris. Ask for and listen to suggestions. But don't rush her or annoy her with constant questions. ("Is this good? Harder? Softer? Faster? Slower?") Be patient and enjoy her sighs, moans, and squirms. Don't expect your gal to climax from intercourse alone; most women need manual help. Take your time!
4. Women, learn how your body responds. Try touching yourself and masturbating when you're alone and also before, during and after intercourse. (Some women may be reluctant to try this, due to religious or other reasons.)
5. Be loving during sex; it makes it sweeter -- for many people. Some people find that emotional intimacy interferes with desire.
6. If you experience dryness, buy an over-the-counter lubricant (with glycerin and propylene glycol). Apply it before and during penetration.
7. Consider trying a vibrator or other sex toy. For many women, vibrators work very well.
8. Study books and webpages on the topic. This wikipedia article on kunyaza offers useful suggestions about stimulating a woman to orgasm.
9. Read the comments collected below.
10. There is a lot of variation in tastes and capacities. There's no one correct way to enjoy love making. Take the time to find what works for you.

A challenging thing about lovemaking is that the romantic ideal is that the guy just knows what to do without having to be told. In fact, I think it takes gentle guidance, and months or years of intimacy, before the couple can do it skillfully. Making love well is an art.

Maybe they should teach young men, in high school or college, how to make love skillfully.

I'm concentrating on heterosexual sex in this survey, but I'm sure that lesbian couples have to deal with similar issues. I bet, though, that many women are more patient and knowledgable about what does and doesn't work for a woman, and this may be one reason why some ladies prefer ladies.

See The Orgasm Gap: The Real Reason Women Get Off Less Often Than Men and How to Fix It for a valuable perspective on the female orgasm.

See The Internal Clitoris for discussion about the clitoris.

Life is short. Love is sweet.

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1. I usually enjoy sex even without coming, especially since it's so much work to come. If I've recently come, I prefer not coming again, since the stimulation can be uncomfortable. But if I haven't come in a while, I certainly prefer to.
2. Personally, I'm so sick of hearing that sex without orgasm is supposed to be satisfying for women. It isn't. At best, it's boring, at worst it's uncomfortable. My husband would get A LOT more sex if he would only learn how to follow gentle direction in the bedroom. Unfortunately, his ego and enthusiasm both get in the way.
   ♥ I hear ya sister!
   ♥ Yes! I am in full agreement here with what you have said. Thanks for saying it so directly what i have been hesitating to voice.
   ♥ You sound like my frustrayed wife, if only I could fuck for long enough - I feel so unlucky in that, wish my wife had better.
   ♥ I have never had a orgasm during sex. i always have my man finger me before and after so i am satisfied.
   ♥ This! Exactly!!!!!
   ♥  I like to come at least once when having sex.
   ♥  I know that a woman likes to orgasm when she has sex, but if she is not in the "mood" then she won't have an orgasm. Even though I try to get her in the mood.
   ♥  I hear ya!! It's usually all about them. Men just don't have patience, because women tend to take A LOT longer to reach an orgasm. NOT FAIR!!
   ♥  I agree. He always says he going to be satisfied but it's not his fault if I don't reach orgasm. I think that men need to learn how to use their bodies to please a woman instead of always making sex about themselves. And size is always the problem either. [???]
   ♥  In my experience men are in too much of a hurry and want to control everything .. They think that fast and furious banging is what is needed. For me the best and most intensely pleasurable sex is always slow. I like to be explored, not rammed!
   ♥  I know the feeling. whenever I try guiding my bf he complains about not being gud enuf and I don't lyk da way he d0es tngs blah blah blah so I just gav up
   ♥  I have always been the type to ask my woman/partner of her preferences about sex (positions, speeds, oral, rough, soft, etc). However, some women find it hard to have an orgasm due to some of the toys that they've became accustomed to using. If a woman has been using a vibrator longer than she has been with her partner, then he's fighting an uphill battle. Sorry, our 'man tool" just doesn't come with vibration speeds like that. (I wish but no) Sometimes a woman has to drop the toys and teach her lover (as well as herself) a new way on how to do what she needs. (Also, he should have the patience to learn how to effectively please his woman/partner.)
   ♥  As I commented on the survey itself, we have a rule in our household - We're not done till she's done :) After 26 years of marriage (almost 32 years together total) we've developed a very frank and open dialogue. She tells me what she wants, and she gets it (and vice versa, too - equality, right?)
   ♥  I love pleasing my husband but have gotten used to not coming.
   ♥  I hear ya...my husband comes in under 1 minute of penetration. I always came with other partners, with penetration. When I've asked him to go see a doctor he tells me its my fault yada,yada,yada and refuses.
3. She can come only by herself, that too after a very long time. I have managed to make previous partners come very easily, but no man has ever been able to make her come. She still enjoys (and demands!) sex and occasionally takes matters into her own hands when it comes to orgasm. I have stopped obsessing about trying to give her one, and that's worked out brilliantly for both of us.
   ♥  Is your woman in menopause? This was the beginning of my downfall with orgasms. The sure Bet was always oral sex. But even that doesn't work now, I feel like my nerves aren't sensitive anymore and even after several minutes, I just can't get there. I always have to grab a vibrator and it's a distraction. It's very distressing and no one seems to be able to help, including doctors, I'm on HRT pellets and want sex more than ever but my body doesn't respond with orgasms, It's becoming depressing and stressful in the relationship. I love this man and want it to work. We are both 52. Thanks for any advice.
   ♥  I am past menopause and also on the pellets, and my sex life is just as good as it was in my 20's if not better. Maybe you need to find a new pellet doctor, everyone I know who is on the pellets has a rocking libido and sex life.
4. When I am physically turned on - horny - feel connected, present and in love with my partner I can reach orgasm in a heartbeat, it happens to me naturally, effortless, ecstatic. Then there are times where I enjoy the physical closeness, my heart is aroused but not my body, it would be "work" to reach orgasm, I am too lazy do get myself or being "worked" towards an orgasm by my partner, that is a downer for me, I enjoy the physical expression of love without putting myself or my partner under pressure, chasing orgasm, I am turned off when sex becomes a performance where the success is determined whether or not you had an orgasm.
   ♥ amen!
5. I am used to masturbate since 11. So I have no difficulties to reach orgasm. During my marital sex clit rubbing or my vib are efficient helps to get my release. We are happy with it.
   ♥  I LOVE TO RUB MU CLIT.
6. I am a female, mid 40ies, Europe. I masturbate alone and during sex usually. I couldn't live without self stimulation.
7. I've known 3 women that didn't orgasm during sex. One women suffered, and felt immense frustration. She'd get close but never orgasm. Another women seemed fine just having sex without orgasm. A third girl really wants to orgasm, but has no clue how to. And feels deficient for not being able to experience orgasm.
   ♥  I never orgasmic with a man, I have found that a dildo and being alone with a naughty romance book is all that does it. I blame lack of confidence in myself as the problem. I can't seem to stay in the moment with a guy, I start writing what he is thinking. I fake it all the time.
   ♥  Is your husbands sex drive higher than yours. Do you turn him away and then self pleasure when his back is turned? Is that reasonable behaviour?
   ♥  Well done. My wife does the same and I absolutely love it.
8. I love being together with a partner sexually and I am not anxious about having an orgasm, when it happens, great, and if not fine too. There is so much more to sexual intimacy that I LOVE!!! I can imagine that alone the fact that female orgasm it is a topic contributes to stress and disables women... And the hormones are a factor too. Tell me about it. Some days I am so hot and want to climax, and usually get to, and other days I just don't want to go there but enjoy the intimacy and sensuality with a beloved partner. I always wonder why everything has to be black or white. Could life offer us rather than an "either or" an "as well as" reality?
   ♥ That's great for you, and i'd feel the same, do, but my husband cannot get me to orgasm ever from penetration - all too quick (sad frustrated face) - so I have to be happy with the loving sharing tender sex, pretending the hard eager prolonged and productive sex doesn't matter. Is it having that that makes you feel so at ease with not cuming every time? must be. i'm jealous of so many women on here who at least have had the experience.
   ♥  I believe that this is a major difference between men and women. Emotions tend to trigger a woman's arousal point way more than a man. We are able to have an orgasm with a woman that we "hate". However with women, it's just not as simple.
   Sorry ladies, but this 60 plus female thinks that is pure Bullshit. Orgasms are our birthright just as much as a man, or you would have been born without a clitoris.....the ONLY function of a clitoris is for pleasure! A vagina is for reproduction and male orgasm to take place. Just because we are too lazy to tell our man or show what works for us sexually, we fold up and get rewarded by just our "good feelings" what a crappy life to have assigned yourself to! Women need to grow a set and enjoy sex just as much as men do, and until we dump ideas like this, we will continue to be sperm repositories! Wake up women! Women are capable of being multi orgasmic with no penis in sight! If you want it you have to put a little effort into it and learn how, and then re-educate your men on how to pleasure you! Peace out!
9. Orgasm is not something I receive - my climax - it is something I co create with my partner or myself.
10. It's best when my boyfriend rubs my clitoris til I come, or until I'm about to come. Then I can enjoy a vaginal orgasm when he penetrates me, and there's no risk of him coming too early.
11. Intercourse is better for me if my woman has reached an orgasm. I find oral stimulation of her frenulum (where the inner lips meet) and the underside or her clitoris, together with manual penetration of her vagina on the g-spot generally gives her many relatively quick orgasms. Her vagina is then much nicer to be inside as it tightens up and she enjoys further orgasms by my penis.
    ♥  If you take care of them first, then 99% of the time, you have a very healthy relationship.
12. Really want to enjoy sex with my partner, but I don't. Instead I experience pain, not the enjoyment everyone talks about.
    ♥  I know how you feel...
    ♥  You should see a doctor instead of withstanding pain. That is NOT NORMAL. You could have a serious issue internally. I do not mean if the man hits your cervix during brutal selfish sex - that WILL hurt. But if you experience pain with normal penetration.....that is not good. Please see a gynocologist.
13. I am a 31 yo virgin, so these are the answers that I would like to apply to me when I am happily married and having sex. Also, please put 'Always' as an option and not stop at 'Usually'.
14. My wife usually enjoys sex even when she doesnt have time to orgasm, provided we make time for her when she wants to -- which is about once every other week. I usually rub her clitoris until she is about to cum, then enter her -- which 9 times out of 10 brings about her orgasm.
15. She gives me a blow job and that gets her wet. I climax in her mouth and she is fine with that. She does not climax or want me to help her climax. The blow jobs are great.
    ♥  Oh wow! Do you honestly think she's okay with that? I sure wouldn't be. You wouldn't be climaxing in my mouth, but I'd be expecting orgasms.
    ♥  She is most likely not as into you as she used to be. Sex with someone you don't really desire can be painful; whereas blow jobs are relatively easier. This probably also the reason why she doesn't want you to help her climax (she either doesn't want you to realize that she is dry or she doesn't really enjoy your technique)
    ♥  Her snatch is probably so stretched and worn out from all the brothas ho rooting her, a blow job is the only way you would cum, ever heard the expression "like a cock in a bucket", well think of her minge as the bucket after the hombre's have worked it, and well your cock as the cock.
    ♥  As a dude, my honest opinion is that, either you're lying or that she is having sex with someone else and just "sucking you dry" (in more than one way) just to shut you up. Women are naturally giving but never to a point where that she wants nothing in return. TRUST ME.
    ♥  That's not necessarily true. I love to suck my man off. It makes my pussy throb, an insatiable feeling that gets my clit hard and throbbing too. It makes my body shiver; I just feel it all over. And majority of the time I'll orgasm without even touching myself or him touching me. It's sexy to look up at him as I'm licking his shaft from top to bottom and he has the look of pleasure on his face. Or look up at him as he grabs my hair and pulls my head back, and he gives me a naughty look as I lick my lips and beg for more. Even sitting here thinking about it and typing this is making me tingle with pleasure. Mmmmm to take his balls in to my mouth, apply just the right pressure and vibration. Tantalizing the tip of his penis with my tongue ring. I love all of these things and even the thought of them make we wet and almost orgasm. And finally just when he is about to climax, the best part is I sit back on my knees and lift my head up, still sucking his tip, but mostly using my hand to finish him while using my other hand to play with my clit and finish off my orgasm if I hadn't had one yet. My mouth open, waiting for the his sweet taste, then he pulls my hair back, lifts up my face more, and used his hand to shoot his sweet cum in to my mouth. The feeling and taste of him sliding down the back of my throat, his moaning and enjoying his climax, makes my orgasm even that much more thrilling and pleasing. Mmmm and afterward, licking his drops off my lips and taking him back in to my mouth to get every little bit of what's left inside him and to be sure he's perfectly clean. So.....yeah......it's not true that we women must be cheating on him or have no feelings for him just because we love to give blowjobs and are just as pleased by that as we are as by sex. Do I still love sex? Of course. But having his yummy hard cock down my throat is just so sensual and erotic. Especially if you add a little role playing or changing between being sensual or being a little rough. Etc. Yes....blowjobs are amazing to give!!!! --- from a woman who orgasms even from cock sucking :-)
16. My wife does nor want me to touch her clitoris or kiss her nipples.
    ♥  Then you probably aren't doing it right. Lots and lots of wetness need to be present (spit, lube, whatever) for me to enjoy my clit being touched, especially by rough man hands. Start very gentle, use barely-there touches. After breastfeeding for many years, it isn't immediately pleasurable to me to have my nipples touched. But, when my husband takes his time and massages my breasts, and blows warm breaths on my nipples, I can then enjoy them being kissed or stroked softly.
    ♥  Maybe something happened to her in her life and those places have been strong trigger points that bring a feeling of guilt or self worth issues or previous trauma or abuse... be gentle and ask.
17. My partner does not let me rub her clitoris at any time because she says it is painful for her.
18. In my early sex life I came across very selfish lovers who had no idea how to bring me to orgasm and didn't want to. I found myself drying out more and more frequently until I switched partners. When I finally got to those that wanted to help me achieve orgasm, I found that I couldn't even with a half-hour to an hour of foreplay. I've been masturbating longer than I've been having sex (I couldn't live without it...) and I can reach orgasm in about twenty minutes, but when it comes to being with a partner it's almost impossible, even if they're in the same room (making mutual masturbation an impossibility). It's frustrating, but I've given up on orgasm with a partner and skipped just to enjoying the sex for what it is. And if I dry up and it gets painful, I just switch to giving him a blowjob to help him reach his own climax. (Age: under 20)
    ♥  I understand this....I don't think I ever climax...
    ♥  You seem to have a bit too much experience for someone under 20. Maybe you should take a break from sex and focus on other things for a while.
    ♥  Hey im under 20 and i know how you feel. Dont let anyone tell you about to much experience. I'm a total feminist and i switch partners when it gets boring. Its all about how you feel. I can never reach orgasm with anyone.
    ♥  There is the problem... your under 20 and you are switching partners when the sex gets boring. There is more to sex than just physical penetration. Once you learn to be emotionally involved with someone then maybe you will be able to achieve your orgasms.
    ♥  I also don't believe this is what 'feminism' is about. What if men started going around saying that when sex gets boring they just switch partners #masculism. We are all people with feelings and should follow and understand ethics of love and relationships.
    ♥  I'm 43 and the same happens for me all my life can't do it with a man, only way I can come is with a dildo and by myself it only takes five minutes.
19. My wife does not like her clitoris to be touched manually. She tolerates oral stimulation but prefers that I avoid the clitoris. (70+ male)
20. Sometimes when she doesn't climax she get satisfied but not relieved.
21. I need to know the best way to sexually satisfy her. [Reported that he doesn't help her manually.]
    ♥  Let me come round and have a go then I will tell you.
    ♥  Some women have very sensitive clitorises (clitori?), so don't fret about it. She can still reach orgasm in other ways
22. I enjoy sex without coming as I take too long to come. But if I get orgasm it's bonus. My partner put his 100% efforts to get me at climax but am 29 years old now and have family and work pressure and sometimes am very tired to reach at climax. So I just enjoy whatever I get. But I love foreplay. That's more important to me.
23. My partner says, it's not important for her to have an orgasm, to which I say bullshit. It's all about her. I've asked her to say "don't stop" if she thinks I'm "finished" which initiates plan B. An oral finally. (70+ year old male)
    ♥  wow dats very thortful of u i like de way u think ur not selfish unlike other who jst think only 4 themself n dats hurt me bigtime coz my man is selfish.
    ♥  My ex always came during sex but sex was a once a month habit (and no she wasn't faking). She chose to self please far more often claiming she didn't really know why and or that sometimes it was just a bit quicker and easier than sharing. I have since found out that this is a very very common thing for woman to do. So, I have a question for you woman. If you are going to have together sex far less frequently than solo sex, is it any wonder that men end up going over the side?
24. I'm involved with a younger man and he has no clue how to make a women have an orgasm. I get fustrated and give up alot in the bed. We been dating 5 months now and not one orgasm with him. One time he tried to perform oral sex and it hurt cause he sucks too hard. He is getting better at kissing and handling my breast. I don't know how to get this issue with sex fixed cause it is very important to me in an ongoing relationship. (40-49 year old female)
    ♥  I have started a friend with benefits relationship with a guy who is 4-5 years younger than me but didn't know until our first time that he never had sex before and he is almost 23. That's fine too but i would expect him to at least have watch porn or would try to do some research so make the sex better. But no, he said he doesn't want to see 2 strangers having sex. he doesn't know how to do any foreplay and doesn't like kissing. so no cuddling, fondling or stroking whatsoever. it is always I give him a blowjob or handjob to start with. very frustrating
    ♥  wow dats very thortful of u i like de way u think ur not selfish unlike other who jst think only 4 themself n dats hurt me bigtime coz my man is selfish
    ♥  Instead of telling us...why not tell HIM where a solution might be forthcoming? My own sex puzzles me sometimes, I mean really........
25. I have always hated having sex and have only ever reached a sexual climax via masturbation. (20-29 year old female)
    ♥  I relate to this, its actually starting to frustrate me!
    ♥  Given only 25% can have orgasm through intercourse alone, you need to add something..say a back massager during intercourse. I'd recommend doggie style holding it against your clit (maybe a towel in between so not too intense) while he is screwing from behind.
26. Sex can only be sweet when we strive to bring our partners to orgasm. (30-39 year old female)
    ♥  Not if you're with a clueless guy. If he's like most men it's a race to the finish. Good luck though!
27. I have secondary anorgasmia. Not one O in 3 yrs. I practice/masturbate daily. It's enjoyable but never quite fulfilling. It's like eating and never being full, drinking alcohol but never getting more than a buzz,coffee without the caffeine. It's just so saddening. I spent most of most life as a spinster, but now I'm finally ready to have sex because I'm horny, and the orgasm is MIA. A guy may put up with it, but eventually he will forget to bother to make you feel good because it seems like more work than it's worth. It's almost becoming an obsession for me. (30 - 39 year old female)
28. When I have sex with my partner I love it, but its so hard to reach my cilmax, I really want to be able to have an orgasm, I rarely do, and when I do its amazing, but I find when I'm on top, and my clit is on the right place, I can get an orgasm... But when I get fingered or have sex, I feel sometimes I have to act it... I don't want to do this anymore?!!A (20-29 year old female)
29. I ALWAYS get her off first. (50-59 year old male)
30. It's weird because i use to not have a problem reaching an orgasm with a partner but after i had my child it got hard for me to have a orgasm with my partner. Sometimes it might take a long time but i would reach one. Other times i just cant reach one and it really bother me because i really need to reach an orgasm. (20-29 year old female)
31. Usually I can give a lady an O. But sometimes it can be difficult because I may not be doing something quite right. I am, and all men should always be very willing to take directions to help you get what you need. Never fake it, chances are she isn't an actor. An aware being can tell and feels pitied. (20-29 year old male)
32. I dont care about orgasm.please help me to feel pleasure during sex pleaseeeeee. (30 - 39 year old female)
    ♥  Check out Betty Dodsons website http://www.dodsonandross.com/ on female sexuality, you WILL find help there! Good luck, just do general search on her name and it will turn up...do not give up! Women deserve orgasms too!
33. I usually do enjoy d stimulation by my partner but i so much want 2 reach orgasm. (20 - 29 year old female who reports she finds it "very" difficult to reach orgasm)
34. I have sex feel but i am not maried so i use pillow with under is it good. (20 - 29 year old female)
35. My wife never allows me to touch her clitoris directly, but she reaches her orgasm whenever i rub her pussy, not clitoris depending on her mood. before she used to have orgasm with oral sex, but now only with finger or rubbing on her pussy with hard penis. she really enjoys the orgasm during or after intercourse is over. she never did masturbation although she is in her thirties.
36. I have NEVER been with a man that has given me an orgasm. Guys that I have been with have been very selfish. They talk like they care about me having an orgasm but like they say actions speak louder than words. Right ladies? The only way I have been able to reach an orgasm with a man is for me to take charge and I am able to reach one within a couple of minutes. Now to put the shoe on the other foot, I have NEVER denied my men, by that I have never said no or I have a headache, ever. Therefore, no one can say I was ever selfish about allowing them to reach climax. (40 - 49 year old woman)
37. My gf and I have great chemistry. She has multiple orgasms, and is able to orgasm through intercourse as long as we have sufficient foreplay. Learning what your partner likes is key. Take your time!
    ♥  Sorry to say, I think you have a faker on your hands - no pun intended. Even women who CAN orgasm from penetration alone reach climax every three times to a guy's six times....so multiples EVERY time with intercourse? I would doubt that.
38. I really enjoy sex with my partner, it gets really intense and good, but hes very sensitive and reaching climax before me. He wants to please me and he feels horrible that he's not getting me to orgasm first. Hes beginning to doubt our relationship. I tell him all the time i enjoy it even without climax but it's tearing him up especially since I was previously with someone he knew before we got together and that person bragged about getting me to orgasm almost every time we had sex. I just want to know how to orgasm so my partner doesn't feel like less of a man that he can't please me, cause I really enjoy just being so close to him but to keep my relationship safe I just wanna know how to fricking orgasm for him! please help :( (under 20 female)
    ♥  Always rub your clit during intercourse and make sure he gives you a blowjob before penetrating.
    ♥  Try giving him gentle instructions and feedback about what does and doesn't work. Guys usually can't tell what works unless gals tell them.
39. She rubs her clitoris because she claims only she knows the pressure and how she likes it. Furthermore I've known plenty of women without sexual issues who climax on their own without any clitoral stimulation but these women are European. In my experience it's the American women who have trouble reaching orgasm. (30-39 year old male)
    ♥  I agree. In my humble opinion, the north American women seem to have a hard time climaxing compared to their europe counterparts.
    ♥  Maybe European men are better lovers? Having sampled the Americans, they are a sorry lot of selfish lovers, so maybe it is true that European guys have it going on!!
    ♥  [Editor's note: I'm sharing the following reader's comment but, of course, take no position about its validity.] The difference is that European men aren't circumcised. Their penises are natural with all their parts in place. The foreskin is a huge deal and we are slicing it off and throwing it away. American women are having uncomfortable, non-orgasmic sex as a result. There's a website that describes the mechanics of a circumcised vs. intact penis and how it affects the vagina. It's www.sexasnatureintendedit.com. All the problems discussed on this page would be fixed if we would stop circumcising our baby boys. Also, why are we torturing our babies like this? It's extremely painful to them and teaches them that they can't rely on their parents to help them when they're screaming and crying. Look up a guy named Brother K (username richard.carver.779) on Facebook and follow his posts to learn more. Using the keyword "intactivist" will also get you more info. I ended up on this page because I was searching for info on whether European women have the same problems climaxing that American women have. I'd love to find some statistics on that. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on the matter. I suspected European women would be able to orgasm through intercourse since their men are intact (uncircumcised). According to you, they ARE able to orgasm during sex, just not for the reason you think.
    ♥  Editor's note: the following map, from 6 maps and charts that explain sex around the world, shows the gap between men and women's orgasm rates by country. If the results can be believed, women in France, Italy, and Spain (as well as Mexico, China, India, Singapore, and Nigeria) have more orgasms per sexual encounter than do Americans.
    
    
    
40. Sex feels much better if a man is NOT circumcised. It's also much easier to orgasm in different positions. (20-29 year old female)
41. Men, for the most part, have no idea how to make women cum. Sure they are sometimes hot to get fucked.....talk dirty etc. But they get off and assume you have to....if they really knew the pulsating that a pussy makes when orgasaming, then they would realize they have failed. (40-49 year old female)
    ♥  So true! If a man really knew what it feels like when a woman cums vaginally, a woman would not be able to fake it. The vagina pulsates wildly and it is great!
    ♥  Males need to understand what works for one female might not do it for another. They need to ask what the female wants, I have been with the same guy for 21 yrs, and as I get older my needs change. Communication is the key. I have never had an orgasm with intercourse alone, I need clitoral and breast stimulation. I am in my 50's and masturbate and or have sex almost daily. Also my husband knows to get me off first, then my second orgasm is much easier with penetration and clitoral stimulation. If I am having a harder time, than usual we have vibrators, but I like that he never lets me go unsatisfied.
    ♥  Soooo true
    ♥  Guys do not know how that feels because their women are not having orgasms with them! But then they are most likely being lied to by spineless women who fake the big O like a Porno Queen and allowing these guys to remain ignorant - it works both ways, women need to grow up and be HONEST with their men or this will never change. I cannot believe with all the good sexual resources out there (not porn) that this is still a big problem!
42. A partna should always help a woman to reach so that she will not look some where for satisfaction. (70 plus unspecified gender)
43. I've been wth my partner for 3years nw bt nvr enjoyd sex. he is da only 1 i slep wth. i've never do it wth anyone. sometimes i tel my self that he rush me. as soon as he ok he want 2 do it. sometime i watch porn movies 2 see if i cn get horney and i do. i even feel like i can do it n enjoy it as much i do when watchng it but when having sex real i dnt enjoy it. help me plz. am even about 2 lose hm because he puts all the blames 2 me. n other thing we have a baby boy 2. geta n that happen 1st day he broked my virginity. i thnk he do enjyoy da sex wth me bt i dnt what must i do to enjoy it. (20-29 year old female)
44. I have never reached an orgasm through regular intercoursse. I have to have oral and even then it can take up to 20 minutes... (female, unspecified age)
    ♥  You are normal and within the 70% range of other women who need more direct clitoral stimulation to orgasm, which intercourse alone cannot provide. See other comments, most useful info added to survey.
45. I have given up on men and intercourse. No matter what you say, show, or try to educate men about individual, female sexuality, they always conform it to suit intercourse, penis in vagina sex, seeking their own pleasure. Trust me, I have been around for g-spot and deep spot bullshit and sick and tired of men telling women how to enjoy sex. Look at the statistics, over 70% of women all ages never orgasm with intercourse, what men call SEX. And believe me, with 40 decades of experience, I have seen and heard it all from my female friends for eons. Many women suffer through, lying, faking, and trading off sexual pleasure for companionship and support. Many women on their own can climax within five minutes! No need for a twenty minute warm up, so what does that tell you? Guys, wake up, please........Listen to what WOMEN are telling you about their sexual needs, NOT what MEN are instructing you to do to them! It is so frustrating that women are turning gay or to a life of deception and a case of female blue balls! Imagine that every lady you have bedded strokes your penis for five seconds, strokes your testicles for another twenty expecting that to please you, she has an orgasm and you are sitting there gritting your teeth as she rolls over to sleep calling it a night. What would YOU do or feel? (60-69 year old female)
    ♥  I completely agree with you! Even with a caring partner who tries to look after my needs, and understands sex and female pleasure is not just penis vagina intercourse, it still doesn't totally seem to sink in for him! I know that thinking of sex as a sort of currency is terrible for a relationship, but I can't help keeping track and getting super angry about it. I orgasm maybe one out of every five or six for him. When he gets an orgasm, he happily rolls over and goes right to sleep. When he chooses to focus on me and I have an orgasm, I always seem to be coaxed into returning the favor right there and then! When all I want to do is roll over and go to sleep! And I've had Gus in the past tell me, "oh well guys get blue balls, it's an actual physical reaction so we have every right to be upset. Women don't get that." Oh get over yourself. I'm already beyond sick of it and I'm barely pushing 30.
    ♥  I hear ya. My husband was great til our first child . After that no foreplay, hardly ever had sex & he willingly went down on me once every 12 - 18 months. This went on for 20 years until out of the blue he became sexually playful again. Now I have a hard time trying to enjoy it when for 20 years the thought of sex would make me depressed and angry. Plus I hate when guys treat your orgasm like a chore. So much better when they are into making you cum rather then doing it because they feel it's about time you deserve it. Like deeming it's worth. Just makes you seem more like property rather than a partner.
46. This is freaking me out! She claims to have had this problem forever, but it still throws me for a loop... I'm not a fast finisher and can last, usually trying to get her there first. Sometimes I hold back so long I find I have trouble reaching one myself. Sometimes I try and try and she can't and that frustrates me and I lose all interest, probably out of insecurities and frustration. I have a large penis and don't think that's it, so I'm like wtf? With direct stimulation and keeping a well lubed rhythm with my two fingers while driving down the freeway from one state to another it took us well into the thirty min mark to get her to have an orgasm. Idk? (40 - 49 year old male)
    ♥  It's not all about rammin and slammin. Other forms of stimulation are your best bet. My girlfriend takes a while to cum from penetration but my tongue can do it in 5 minutes.
47. I had easy orgasms with my 3 exes, we never had to try at it, it just happened easily, and at the same time as each other. We didn't have to think about "how" to have sex and how to orgasm, it truly just happened. Our bodies knew what to do and we just went with the flow without having to think about it. But not with my current partner. It's very difficult to acheive orgasm, for both of us! The only diffence is that he's circumcised. We've been together almost a decade, and nothing works, sex is so annoying and since our first time having sex, I had to fake orgasm, because I didn't underestand what was going on, why sex and orgasm was so easy with the other men, who were virgins, but uncircumcised... I don't know... this makes me so sad... (20 - 29 year old female)
48. I am not having problems reaching one. i actually do it for no reason sometimes and this has been going on for years. (under 20 female)
49. I never had an orgasm during intercourse and the orgasm that I had while masturbating wasn't so mind-blowing, so I don't know if it was real or not. I concentrate on his pleasure when I have sex and I don't let him go down on me, because I'm inhibited. I'm starting to feel sad because of all this. (20-29 year old female)
    ♥  Women generally have poor body image and low self esteem...is it any wonder when we are conditioned by society that we are to be paid less for our working jobs...men earning still more, women are told they must be thin, must be mothers , must accept physical and emotional abuses, must have large breasts, must be beautiful, have smelly body parts launching feminine hygiene products, must be mothers, and must orgasm by penetrative intercourse...and ya want to know WHY we can't get off?
50. i enjoy it a lot but i dont get satisfied. (20 - 29 year old female)
51. I have never reached orgasm. I find sex pleasurable and usually very satisfying, but I never orgasm. I've never told a partner that though... I'm pretty vocal during sex (for someone who doesn't orgasm) so they assume I'm climaxing. (under 20 female)
    ♥  If you have never had an orgasm, you are missing out and tolerating bad sex and lazy lovers. If you think you are worth it, educate yourself on your own body first before you partner sex...right now you are losing out big time! Don't expect a man to show you, chances are he is clueless and is only interested about "getting in and getting off" especially in your age range. Twenty something year old men are looking for women they can climax in, not teach you about female sexual pleasure....trust me on that one! :)
52. My guy always wants me to but i don't really how to go about. am always high when he is slow and there is perfect erection. (30-39 year old female)
53. Everytime i have sex with my partner i don't enjoy it and i have never reached an orgasim i always pretend. (20-29 year old female)
    ♥ Tell him that so u can experiment more.
    ♥ Buy Sheri T. Hite Report on female sexuality. You are too young to give up. Ladies are given the right parts, don't let a stupid or lazy guy stop you from seeking pleasure! A clitoris has more nerve endings than the sensitive underside of the man's glans...women are capable of multiple orgasms! Get out of your vagina and get to work on yout clits ladies AND gents who bother to try!
54. I get a real "high" from penetrative sex but never orgasm. In my sexual experience I have only had 1 partner who could make me cum effortlessly through oral sex. Others just dont hit the mark..so to speak. That guy just had the right technique! My current partner of 4 years recently said making a woman orgasm was hard work!! I have given up on expecting his help (oral or otherwise to orgasm) and self-pleasure. To be honest I wish it were different, it gets very frustrating and stressful sexually. Feels like my man has become lazy cause he knows I masturbate when he aint around and figures maybe I don't need the attention!! WRONG! When he did take the time..the orgasms were amazing and different from when I self-helped. (40-49 year old female)
55. I know my girlfriend loves having sex with me, she talks about it all the time. i just want to maximize her pleasure. (under 20 male)
    ♥ You might be trying to put her on the male model of sex...get in, come quick, get out. Some women prefer to sit back and enjoy the ride there, ya know? Ask her if SHE wants to learn how to get off quickly like you do.
56. I want by bf to rub my clitoris with his penis. (under 20 female)
    ♥ You should tell him that.
    ♥  Right...and if HE won't do it YOU do it! Look at it this way, intercourse is how HE gets HIS pleasure, work on your like he is working on his. He doesn't seem to care if you get frustrated, so why should he care if you can get yourself off as well? Take control, sex for ONE is boring already. If he doesn't like it, get rid of him, chances are if he is selfish in bed, he will be just as selfish in other areas of life. Tell him to use some other woman's body to masturbate into! Good luck.
57. If I haven't seen my gf in a long time, then first time we make love I cum quickly and there's not enough time for her to cum. But she says she still enjoys it. Usually we do it a second time within in an hour or two and then she can come if we work at it; but it's still usually difficult not to come before she does. (50-59 year old male)
    ♥  Masturbate a few hours before you see her if you are that worried about it. That will curb your desire a bit to get off right away and you will last longer.
58. I once had a gf who could come almost at will. If I entered her, she could come within a few seconds. I read that that may be related to the distance between the clit and the vagina: the closer, the faster they come. Alas, I left her for another woman who treated me badly. (40 - 49 year old male)
59. I want to climax when I have sex. (20 - 29 year old female)
60. I don't have a problem to reach orgasm. (20 - 29 year old female)
    ♥  I wish my girlfriend could too i always make the effort i listen to what she wants. but i can tell she's faking and it hurts me. im starting to get ed cause of it . it also the fact that as soon as she thinks im asleep she masterbates for hours it really hurts me cause i really want to please her in every way it not as if i have a small cock its 8 inches i know size dont really matter. but i dont know what to do cause it hurting me badly im getting very depressed
61. Sometimes it's too much work to try and come so I just lay back and enjoy it. (40-49 year old female)
    ♥  I know the feeling. I just masturbate when I want to orgasm. I can usually get 10 orgasms when masturbating. It takes me about 12 to 15 minutes to get 10 orgasms. When I was single I would orgasm if a guy had a really thick penis.
62. im 39 and have never had an orgasm. (30 -39 year old female)
63. Ok, im a military wife and since he is gone alot I have to do it myself. Ive noticed the pastfew nights I orgasm but not fully. Is that normal? And how can I orgasm again? (20 - 29 year old female)
64. I think its more important to make your partner nearly reach her climex before intercourse and never intercourse before she really ask for it badly. (40 - 49 year old male)
65. We usually get me off first since I tend to ejaculate very fast. Then I concentrate on her Clit and G-spot. She can easily have 24 orgasms to my one! (under 20 male)
66. I find it impossible to have an orgasm. sometimes I feel like its getting close to it then he just comes... (20-29 year old female)
67. I always ask her if she did come as I don't want to come alone but if she didn't reach her organs [orgasm] I suck her pussy till she cry my name. (30 - 39 year old male)
    ♥  She might be faking to make you think she's enjoying the oral sex...women will fake a quick come when something is being done badly or it is too painful. We do not like to hurt guys feelings, that's why most men think they are porno sex gods...trust me, you're not. Nor are we porno sex kittens....ask us first before you make a request of wanting us to have sex while swinging from the dining room lights!
    ♥  Does he rub your clit?
68. I have never masturbated myself to climax...i hardly ever masturbate.i however have climaxd one or two times with a man and used to when i started having sex.i enjoy sex even if i dont climax but i wld love to learn how to again. (70+ female)
69. Just became sexually active and it been tough trying to reach an orgasim. Sometimes I think something is wrong with me. And almost everytime after sex my guy looks at me and says "still no orgasim?". :) (20-29 year old female)
    ♥  That's because the men you have slept with are idiots, know NOTHING about sex other than how to get their own, and their women are nothing but receptacles for semen. And until women wise up and stop faking, and stop putting out for lame sex, that is exactly how a man will treat them......as a maturation tool for this penis. Get rid of the loser...buy him a plastic blow up doll and buy yourself a good book on female sexual response. I recommend Sheri T. Hite Report on Female Sexuality, or Betty Dodsen Sex For One to learn about your own body. Good Luck?
    ♥  Ignore the comment telling you to "Get rid of the loser..." because clearly they aren't interested in helping you all because sex shouldn't be the reason you are with someone. I too just became sexually active male and I can help give you a perspective on what the guy you are with might be thinking. We cant read your mind if there is anything that he does that you really like such as kissing certain parts of your body or playfully biting your neck or lip tell him so he can do it more often. Of course there is nothing wrong with you but if he also just became sexually active then he too has no idea what he should be doing.
70. Women like sex more than men. (30-39 year old male)
    ♥  Making a minor suggestion here...Women LOVE sex that is GOOD......it is amazing what a female can achieve when she understands her own body FIRST before giving up her sex life to some guy to figure it out for her! It is unfair to the guy, since women have been faking and not telling them the truth. So ladies, take back your responsibility, educate yourselves about your own body, stop lying to men, and really emancipate yourselves! Great to see a few guys who get it!
    ♥  Women like GOOD sex more than men. So far I have not met a man who is multi-orgasmic. I have heard of a few though.....usually via tantrasex.
71. Experience should show how not forcing an orgasm can make sex better for both husband and wife. Most often the case for the woman, if her husband is gentle, loving, and she can get past the feeling of being cheated out of her orgasm, their sex lives tend to get much better. In fact if she can embrace the act of making love with her spouse and begin to fully give herself in this way the couple will not only find themselves enjoying a much deeper relationship, but she will look forward to sex more often. This should also help those ladies that have trouble reaching orgasm without outside mechanical help. I wll say however this practice works best when you take the time to be sure she is fully ready, or even close to her orgasm before penetration begins. Then the wife at least has a good chance of enjoying orgasm with you. However during the times when she does not reach orgasm you can enjoy her need for closeness and comfort. There is also something to be said for doing this deliberately while trying to conceive, but delaying her orgasm for 10-30 minutes after her husband. This time will allow the sperm more time to pool close to the cervix without being forced out, then manually keeping her on edge whi E lying close can be wonderful.
72. PIV [penis in vagina] sex that goes on a while can sometimes diminish my desire for orgasm in the short term but I am very frustrated hours later. (50-59 year old female)
73. The wife rarely enjoys sex because she does not really like it; I try oral, but she refuses. (70+ male)
74. My partner is always so worried about if I had an orgasm or not. In the 7 years we have been having sex, he has only made me orgasm once. I hate having to pretend to orgasm to make him feel like he is pleasing me in the bedroom. I do not need to have an orgasm to enjoy sex. My toys always bring me to an orgasm. I just wish he understood that I am not as sensitive as other women and though him touching me feels so good it's never going to be as fast as my vibrator. We have explored using toys during sex but he feels like they "replace him" and make him feel inadequate. The sex is still great after all this time, but I just get myself off when he's not around to keep experiencing orgasms. (20-29 year old female)
75. Having tried to reach orgasm since I was 14, and then with partners from the age of 18, orgasm is something i've never managed to do. (now early 20's) I try to tell myself to accept it, because as a statistic 10% of women can't do it, and that when i next have a boyfriend, to just pleasure him. But i know for a fact that would cause me to resent him - through my own doing. I can get very VERY close - right on the edge.. and then.. it fades away, nothing. I've tried my hands, vibrators, shower head thing, still nothing. Fed up now. Clitorises are bitches! (20-29 year old female)
76. I HAVE A PROBLEM IF A HANE A SEX WITH MY HUSBAND I DONT ENJOY ,BUT I ENJOY A KISS AND ROMANS [romance?] ONLY AND NOW MY HUSBAND NEED A BABY SO I NEED SOLUTION. (30-39 year old female)
77. I believe that for all women that don't reach orgasm it is very very frustrating. The feelings of engorgement are there and want to get out . Our clitoris is a very small penis. I enjoy sex without orgasm to be touched and give pleasure . It feels wonderful to be held and to give into lust. Most females or men would I believe agree with this. Without orgasm it's like Xmas w no presents , climbing a mountain and reaching the summit without touching it. It's great. But would be soooo much better to orgasm. The feeling of second best is with me. (50-59 year old female)
    ♥  The clitoris isn't a penis! It's better than a penis,has thousands more nerve endings. You need to do your homework.alone!
78. I almost never have an orgasm during sex. I usually fake it so he feels comfortable finishing for the sheer fact that it would be way to tiring and take too long for me to orgasm. Usually when he gets up to go to the bathroom afterwards i finish myself. Sometimes I masturbate in from of him and make myself come and that can be fun. However, I am single and can't expect several different partners to each know what they're doing in bed. I still enjoy sex even though i dont orgasm. I enjoy giving someone pleasure even if i don't make it there. (20-29 year old female)
79. When me and my fiance have sex I orgasm at least 3 times but last few weeks I aint bEen able 2. now he thinks I'm going off him but I don't know what's happening cos he always satisfies me? (20-29 year old female)
80. Guys always think it's so important to last a long time but really just use your hands and mouth and a female is not timing you I swear. If there's no foreplay or touching involved and I get wham-bam-thank-you-ma'med before i'm even warm, that's the only time I would complain about the time. Just remember that it's not about orgasm most importantly (to me, because nobody gets there better than me), it's more just feeling good :) (20-29 year old female)
81. I have NEVER reached orgasm with my current boyfriend, which I don't think he knows...but I still really like having sex with him. I guess it's because that I love him and he does put enough effort into foreplay which I like a lot. But it would be just great if I could reach orgasm with him, sometimes it does get frustrating as well. But I learned to enjoy sex without orgasm. Now I'm still exploring ways to orgasm, but at the same time I'm still taking the pleasure of having sex. (20-29 year old female)
82. Want to enjoy sex reach orgasm during sex without masturbating. (30-39 year old female)
    ♥  do you know how to have an orgasm yet? if So Please help me out.
83. I really wann enjoy my sex what should my partner do to please me nd just enjoy my orgasm. (20-29 year old female)
84. I think masturbation and general sexual self-knowledge is key to having mutually good sex. Some of my exes who have masturbated regularly since early age have often had orgasms and have not been afraid to tell or show me what they want, and it's been easier for me to read what they want. All girls i've been with who have never masturbated (including my current girlfriend) have had a much harder time coming and i've had a much harder time "figuring them out". I think generelly people should be a bit "selfish" in their sex lives, show what they like and what they don't like. As a man i can definetly say that most of my orgasms never happen while i'm passive, i usually have to be on top or have very clear communication with my partner in order to have an orgasm. Imho many women who do not masturbate don't know what they like, but somehow expect the male to know this and just give it to them. The women who masturbate usually know when they are approaching an orgasm and how to enforce it. Masturbation is the key to good sex. (20-29 year old male)
    ♥  Finally, a SMART man who gets it! You are a rare breed, but good for you for paying attention and understanding the issue of anatomy which comes into play during intercourse. Not until people adapt a new model for what sex is supposed to be, let it just happen in a unique way per each different partner. Good for you to have figured it out!
85. Yes I climax in like 5-15minutes, but that doesn't mean I'm ready stop. I can go again for hours if she can take it, unless her contractions are strong which just feels amazing and I orgasm. My girlfriend hasn't had an orgasm while intercourse. She loves my hands though because I can give her clitorial orgams like nothing, and she loves that. She dislikes receiving oral, and I don't know why I have been meaning to ask. We almost climaxed together one time but I finished about 20 seconds to early she said. I always give her foreplay, but sometimes she just wants me and I try to do foreplay. I keep going until she says I want you now! Depending on the scene, I can orgasm twice to 3 times in an hour or 2. In between foreplay and oral. Usually once she orgasms she is done, unless I work her up for multiple orgasms which is like 1 in 2 or 3 times because she gets too sensitive. she also just loves to lie there and take it. She can only really be on her back because she said it feels too good and gets weak and drops. So rarely doggy style or she on top. Yes, I like to have sex because she makes me feel wanted and I love that, so when she denies me or pushes me away, or is too busy I get a little sad. It's an emotional thing yes it is. I understand when she doesn't want to have sex, so we stay up talking all night or hours about it or other things or cuddle, and I love that too. But when she doesn't want any of that. Omg drives me crazy. After she orgasms though, she is usually done and I'm not unless we went on for hours and I cam like 2-3 times. Then once I give her a orgasms, I am totally turned on by it but she is always done. I think once or twice we started up again, but she has to stop because too sensitive. Is it me and I can go for too long or is her that once she is there she is done, which is why sometimes I save her for last. Sometime though I give her one real quick and she's done. Shouldn't it be like the other way around lol. (20-29 year old male)
86. It would be frustrating if I never had an orgasm from sex but I usually do. If I just can't climax though, I don't have a problem with being in it just for his pleasure...I mean that still feels good even if it doesn't end in an orgasm for me. (20-29 year old female)
    ♥  But are you not misleading the guy that you are less important than he is? The messaging seems to imply that your orgasm does not matter. Sooner or later when he starts to become lazy and does not try as hard to please you, he will turn your own behavior and words back on you with a reminder you that g"you DO NOT CARE if you orgasm or not." That seems to me like a bad idea all the way around, letting him cut into other areas of your partnership with him that you are a second class citizen. Believe it or not, sexual programming is a lot more political in the short run than we ladies realize. Oh well, just my opinion.
87. I really can't say how sweet sex is becouse i have never enjoy it,i realy need help. (under 20 female)
88. My husband and I have been married for 53 years. At the beginning of our marriage I didn't even know what a climax was because sex was over so quickly and he had no idea he should have to do anything to help me. I wasn't sure what a climax even was so I thought just the good feelings I had must be what a climax was. I studied the subject and discovered that I had no idea what a climax was and deceided I needed help. I realized that my husband needed to start helping me. Up until that point our sex life was him receiving his release and me being the one to make sure that happened. When my husband came to the point of knowing he was being selfish and knowing that I told him I had not had a climax. He started helping me with lots of forplay and even oral sex and I started having climax's. They did not come easily and would often take up to 20 minutes or more but I would climax. It takes a lot of work on the part of the man to bring a women to climax and if he loves her he will do that because he knows she will be so much happier and they will be closer in their relationship. It's sad to me, that women don't understand their bodies and in my time we were not educated on how our bodies work. Men often start masterbating at an early age so they know how their bodies worked. I was things we didn't talk about. Women believed that it was dirty to touch themselves etc. Because of that we have thought there is something wrong with us because we don't have a climax or it takes us so long. How sad. We should not believe that there is something wrong with us we are just different than men and we have to learn how to have a climax and there is nothing wrong with that because when we learn it we are more fulfilled and happier with life, ourselves and in our relationships. It has been a journey for meand the reality is that our bodies change through the years and we have to adjust to the changes. I am 73 years old and my husband is 75. We still have sex, at least once a week. I think the reason is that we have cared for our bodies. We are the same weight we were when we married. We have stayed married and love each other very much. At the age of 75 my husband tells me he likes sex better than he did when we were young because he loves me more. As for me, I still enjoy sex - especially the closeness it brings to us and I know it is important to keep enjoy making love throughout your lives. For my personal sex life, at the age of 73, I can still have climaxes but I don't have a lot of feelings. We have given up my husband trying to bring me to climax. We start by foreplay and my husband reaching his climax and then I use my vibrator. He caresses and kisses me to help me come to climax or if he is just too tired. He falls into a enjoyable sleep and I lay beside him until my climax comes and then we embrase and fall asleep together. Times of the days make a differnce. At this age, morning or afternoon is often the best time for making love. My point in writting this, is mostly for the women. For so many years I thought something was wrong with me because the movies made it seem like women were just like men. Filled with passion and automatically climatic but that's not true. Climaxes are difficult to reach for most women - so you are normanl if that's true for you, but inspite of that it is worth the effort to figure out how your body works and find a way to reach a climax. Either with help from your husband or from a vibrator. Whatever you have to do for yourself is ok and if you figure it out you will be so much more content and happier and so will your husband. I believe God is the one who gave us sex and that it was given to bring greater closeness and happiness to married people and there is nothing wrong or dirty about it when it is enjoyed, as God intended it. (70+ female)
    ♥  BRAVO! I think you are my newest hero! What a trooper and testament to the adage "practice makes perfect" when you have a loving partner.
89. I am a boy, i think that man satisfaction is related to her satisfaction, first times i could have 3-4 orgasms in 2 hours but she had zero, then i was worried about our relationship. I just found out that she was shy at first times, then i told her that it was important thing for me that she should "feel something" during the sexual intercourse. one day she started stimulating her clitoris even not during penetration and saw her reaching orgasm in less than 2 mins, that thing shocked me. anyway i rub but she dislikes it, like im not able to, in order to climax she needs to make it herself meanwhile having penetration from me. (20-29 year old male)
    ♥  Watch pornos learn and use it on your partner
    ♥  Make sure whatever you are using to stimulate her is wet i.e. fingers, tongue etc.
    ♥  Do not count on porn for education. It is strictly for entertainment.
    ♥  Porn is the WORST method of learning about female sexuality....life is not like the movies either so why would you think a ten minute video of porn models real sexuality??? Men, read CREDIBLE material on female sexual response, not locker room stories and you will win half the battle!
90. If he lets me do the work while I'm on top it's easier because I can get more pressure . Woman are very emotional creatures , if we are in love with the person we are with and we have that strong passion for them Then I feel it is much easier to let yrself go and lose yrself with them. If yr not that into the guy you Will never orgasim! (40-49 year old female)
91. I love having orgasms but I wouldn't say it's an absolute must every time. I almost always climax, but I find that making love feels incredible before I orgasm as well. In the absence of an orgasm the physical intimacy and sensation leaves me satisfied. However, I will say that it is very rare for me not to climax. A sustained lack of orgasm would be really disappointing and an issue in the relationship that needed to be resolved. (20-29 year old female)
92. I think it deffinantly depends on the person. everyone is different. I think maybe the majority can have sex without orgasom and still be content most of the time. My man always feels bad if I don't orgasom like its his fault, I tell him it's not, and try to explain, but I don't think it makes him feel any different. Also when he feels bad I start to feel guilty for not orgasoming , and then he feels bad that I feel bad, and so on and so forth:) (20-29 year old female)
93. does women erects [eject] semen like man at climax of sex? (20-29 year old male)
94. For me it's all about communication. You have to let your pride and inhibitions go and tell him what you want. Even if there is only one position and one way to get you there. Clitoris is key unless you have a man who can last a really long time. You must have someone teachable and not easily defensive that you can talk to and are comfortable with. Most women like slow sex vs. thrusting.. The thrusting is only good when you are at the brink of orgasm or actually over the top. (30-39 year old female) ?
95. I only have an orgasm during intercourse if I rub my clit at the same time. (20 - 29 year old female)
96. I don't enjoy having sex. (20 - 29 year old female)
    ♥  I am 54, have been having orgasms since I was 12. Need a guy who is skilled with either mouth or fingers to get me there. Did not believe there was a G-spot until I turned 52...and had an O while on top of my partner with his penis inside me while i was fingering my clit. AWESOME. And it is even better in that position while he fingers the clit. Best O ever. Guys need to know what to do...and women need to know that their guy WANTS to please them. Women get tied up in their heads "I'm taking too long" "He's bored" "My stomach is fat"...whatever. Or women are resentful about something and can't concentrate on pleasure. Or women are with selfish lovers and have not told him to change his ways. I say...leave 'em hangin if that is what they do to you. This topic is ludicrous IMO. Enjoy sex without orgasm???? Are you kidding me??????
97. My partner who is 59 is not at all interested in sex for the last few years though I am very much interested and try to stimulate her in vain. very rarely she allow me to have thigh [?] sex with her. (60 - 69 year old male)
    ♥  Big clue here guys...if a woman is not into having intercourse it is because she knows ahead of time it leads only to frustration...a terrible ending. If every time YOU had sex and did not orgasm, how anxious would YOU be looking forward to intercourse. Your women want GOOD sex and not getting there with you, so they try to avoid it. A shame women refuse to show or afraid to admit to their men how they have sex on their own and easily orgasm, but chances are most men do not really care or even try. When they ask the age old question "What do women want?" I have the answer - ORGASMS!
98. I've never had an orgasm, and I feel close every time my boyfriend and I have sex. It's amazing, he's amazing, but nothing ever happens. It makes me feel useless. (20 - 29 year old female)
99. i never can enjoy sex with my husband.thanks a lot for providing this chance.
100. my husband give me a good cunnilingus... but i dont enjoy sex much inspite of the good foreplay....im scared about myself... (20 - 29 year old female)
101. Unless I've climaxed already (hopefully twice), you do NOT have permission to come inside of me. Ever. Thank you. (20 - 29 year old female) ?
     ♥  FINALLY, a woman with a sex positive image of herself and who has taken back her power!! You are an inspiration, young lady...more power to you! A man will learn a lot from you about equality, honor, and trust...not to mention learn a lot about real female sexuality.
102. iam very interest in my partener's clitorius with my tongue before and after the sex (30 - 39 year old male)
103. For a single woman who wishes to get mind-blowing orgasms without a partner the best suggestion and solution for them is to get a sex toy either a vibrator or dildo, or sometimes a product that serves as both dildo and vibration.There are many ways for a woman to get mind-blowing masturbation without having a man in her life. Getting a good solid dildo from your local sex shop will be any woman's first step to attain pure bliss and instant gratification. Women should pick a dildo that they feel will be appropriate in filling their pussy. I tend to go for big dildos based on black men or black porn stars but that’s just my preference. Its not a good idea to go and buy the biggest, juiciest looking cock on your first time especially since if you’ve got to do a lot of getting used to the idea.As a consumer you have to remember that most stores would not allow a return especially since the market has deemed sex toys like dildos as novelty items; aside from that, its not hygienic to do so.The second step to attain mind-blowing orgasm is invest in a great lubricant brand. Do away with your KY Jelly and try to look for other alternatives. For a dildo to work really well, you also have to consider the type of lubricant you rub it with. You can't just go and put a silicone based lubricant on a foam based dildo. (40 - 49 year old male)
104. The only thing that ever brings me to orgasm is a vibrator, and usually in less than 5 minutes. I spent 4 years trying to have an orgasm from masturbation without a vibrator, and years trying to have an orgasm from sex. The only time I ever had an orgasm during sex was when a vibrator was involved. I enjoy sex because it does feel good, and I am glad I have a partner who enjoys making me feel good and does not make me feel like there's anything wrong with me for not climaxing every time. If I worried so much about this sex would become a chore. (20 - 29 year old female)
105. It's pretty difficult for me to orgasm but find I do reach a sort of "satisfaction" point after a few minutes. It's not the same, but I almost always enjoy the sex regardless. As long as it's fun and we're feeling a connection, it can still be good-awesome. I've hardly ever orgasmed on my own actually. (20 - 29 year old female)
106. Im only 16, ive had sex loads of times but only with the one person..i cant orgasm or come and its really affecting me and my boyfriend? is this normal? (16 year old female)
107. i love sex so mch bt i dnt reach orgasm and i dnt knw wat to do to reach it coz i end up nt enjyng sex. (20 - 29 year old female)
108. I feel broken because I don't orgasm during sex. I am at the point that I can't even get myself off if my partner is around. (40 - 49 year old female)
109. Im 19yrs old i had my 1st sex this year and i dont get climax easy it take a lot of effort on my man and he usually dont get happy with that because its easy for him to get horny. (20 - 29 year old female)
110. I truly enjoy sex wit my partner because it is emotionally arrousing even though I never reach a orgasm. (under 20 female)
111. Seems like sex is designed to favour men. I'm also irritated by the idea that women should enjoy sex without orgasm. If a woman were to stop sex just before a guy came I wonder how satisfied he'd be. My boyfriend doesn't seem concerned if I don't come as he says it's difficult to make me come, funny it only takes me a couple of minutes! (30 - 39 year old woman)
     ♥  So who is the smart one here, you or him? He gets off and you get off on your "good feelings." What a horrible sex life you have set up for yourself. Obviously you do not feel that irritated about it or important enough to deserve pleasure, and you are training this guy to believe that lie. Shame on you and shame on him for being selfish and uncarng partner. If he does not care to get you off, do it yourself during intercourse and watch him go into shock...a woman demanding to enjoy sex...it should not have to be that way but when you link up to a selfish prick (literally) what do you expect? Hope you lose the looser and get yourself a REAL MAN who is not afraid of a woman having pleasure.
     ♥  He sucks then, my husband always gives me an orgasm. I wouldn't be listening to any crap about it being too hard or I would say fine, guess it's too hard for me to allow you to come in my pussy.
112. I agree wih this article. I grew up in a conservative family and mostly with traditional people. I never really knew what orgasm is or how you reach it. All I know is that it's more pleasurable doing it myself more than having my partner try help me. (20 - 29 year old female)
113. I usually find it difficult to orgasm even with a lot of foreplay. However, I still LOVE having sex with my man. He definatly knows how to make me feel incredible either way! I do orgasm every once in a while, but not orgasming does not effect my love of sex at all. (20 - 29 year old female)
114. I feel many emotions at once. I still enjoy it but I find it frustrating as well. I enjoy mentally the satisfaction he gets but physically I feel unresolved and frustrated. (20 - 29 year old female)
115. I enjoy the act of sex. getting sweaty and goin crazy with a partner. But if I don't reach orgasm I kinda expect to be taken there by other means... I mean if I came first I wouldn't roll over upon being done, it's only fair to finish em off. (20 - 29 year old female)
116. I am seventy six and I have a seventy four year old partner. We have sex morning and night. She orgasms several times with each session. I hold off so I can satisfy her completely. We are well suited for one another. My wife of 51 years, now passed, was never that interested in sex which left me frustrated a lot. (76 year old male)
117. Orgasm is not essential to my pleasure but I want to orgasm 80-90% of the time and I dont. My husband is lazy and rushes and it turns me off and I cant orgasm. I masturbate very often after sex listening to him snore loudly after he has declared that was awesome babe! He often knows I did not come and does nothing about it even when I have asked him to finish me off. Men we need to come too! We need to come often just like you. (30 - 39 year old female)
     ♥  So I assume you enjoy punnishment? If he will not give you pleasure TAKE IT YOURSELF! Masturbate during intercourse to get yours...and if you want to get really nervy and to prove a point...when YOU cum...tell him sex is over and the shop is closed. The look on his face will be PRICELESS. Try to deny a man of HIS orgasm and man are you going to hear about it. Take a page from their book on this matter and demand equal time!
118. When it comes to a relationship, I'm sure most females are relatively okay with not reaching climax during intercourse. When it comes to a "hook up", well that's a different story. (20 - 29 year old male)
     ♥  Would YOU be okay without having a climax every time you have intercourse? Lucky for you to find willing women to loan out their vaginas for you to masturbate into. NO, it is not healthy for a woman either, it is just as awful feeling for a woman to feel sexual frustration like it is for a man, and guys like you who are just hanging around looking for lonely women to "hook up" with and use for your own sexual enjoyment....all this time you are getting your rocks off and not learning how to be a decent lover to a woman...later on in life, your long time love affair with yourself will wind up being with your right hand, because no woman worth her salt will stay with a lame lover for long, a guy who has no clue how to please her sexually. You might wind up with the types of ladies who have no self esteem in anything, are insecure, never happy with anything, and are professional victims in life.....and man will you have payback like you cannot believe! Karma...what a bitch.
119. how can i help myself to improve my orgasm during sex (20 - 29 year old female)
120. I've never been able to cum by penetration period. tried a lot n with different guys, just can't do it like that. I can only get off by rubbing my clit. I can cum while in top by basically rubbing my clit on his pelvic bone, don't matter if his Dick is in me or not, n have done it on bottom but its harder to tense up n have an orgasm like that. basically the Dick ain't necessary period. i really dont like sex at all n just do it for him. I love getting head though, like it with girls better bc I get what i need without having to feta what I dont (20 - 29 year old female)
121. My partner used to be really focused on reaching a climax. Recently, she seems to not care if she doesn't. Although, it is much more satisfying for me if she does. I generally go down on her before intercourse, and she will either climax or tell me she thinks it is going to take too long and she just wants to have intercourse. ? (20 - 29 year old male)
     ♥  What she is saying in code is - nothing you are doing is working, so go straight to intercourse so you can get off and she can do it herself, get an orgasm in secret when you are not around, unfortunately many women do this to get the guy off quickly so the torture stops. Sorry, but these are things women will feel uncomfortable to let their guy, protecting his feelings from getting hurt...if he even cares, many do not. MANY women will also fake to make a man come fast, then secretly masturbate themselves to ease sexual frustration.
122. Just became sexually active and it been tough trying to reach an orgasim. Sometimes I think something is wrong with me. And almost everytime after sex my guy looks at me and says "still no orgasim?". (30 - 39 year old female)
123. Men will either selfishly rush the act to please themselves or they'll be so set on pleasing you that it's uncomfortable. Don't repeatedly ask, "are you coming", "almost there?", "is this right?" and other such questions. Nothing is going to happen if you're staring at me and bombarding me with questions! Too much pressure, too uncomfortable! So far, the only way I've been able to reach a "median" if you will, is doggy-style, let the guy do his thing and I'll just rub my clit. Unfortunately this means no "emotional connection" which most women want. But it's the closest thing to masturbation...with a partner. Plus you don't have to look at each other. No awkward eye contact. ? (20 - 29 year old female)
     ♥  Hey, at least you are getting yours....but if a guy is that caring and trying, maybe you should cut him a break and tell him. Even if he cannot do it for you, I gie him credit for caring...most guys could give a rat's ass if their woman has an orgasm or not, your guy cares and tries so I would not be so hard on him for wanting to please you. There is a lot to work with in a man like this, don't screw it up, tell him and SHOW him - better yet. Good Luck!
124. I have NEVER came befor durning sex but when I use my toy on my click It feels amazing. I just wish I can come for my boyfriend cause it makes him feel bad and upset with him self when I dont. (under 20 female)
125. I have never reached orgasm when i sleep with my partner. However when i masterbate i have a weak orgasm still. Im not sure why because i love having sex yet i never come. (20 - 29 year old female)
     ♥  How long do you do it?
126. My partner isn't very attentive and is just interested in his pleasure. He knows what I like, and he doesn't do it. I usually climax on top, but he always changes positin soon afterward. We are dating and have had sex a few times now, he wants anal sex now, even though I told him it's not my thing. I just feel hes in it for himself. I won't be dealing with his selfish love making for much longer. (40 - 49 year old female)
127. The majority of women I have been with have NEVER had an orgasm. How would I know this? First my age and experience. And I am a very observant individual. Some women think they have had an orgasm but when they actually start to experience one for the first time they can really get freaked out. Stop, Stop, Stop is generally what you hear. Or they just close their legs and push you away. Sometimes they say they have to squeeze their legs together to get an orgasm but it's really that they cant believer what is happening. One woman who thought she was experienced let me take her all the way. She immediately had a terrible headache and I checked her B/P. It was 195 over 120. My opinion is these conditions are brought on by anxiety, nothing else. And subliminal reasons for this situation are first and foremost, control,or lack of control, or the thought of losing control. Yes it's mostly purely in your head ladies. With limited certainty I can look a woman in the eyes and tell if she has ever had a real orgasm. Do they all lie about whether they have or not? Absolutely. Ive had women who would swear they have but when they start to reach that point for the first time, most had must as soon grab their skirt and run out the door. Ive been interested in this subject most of my life and have, as stated, been keenly observant during this entire time. It's not like it is a game with most of these women, or that they are totally faking it but the truth is most have never really totally been there. What a shame. (40 - 49 year old male)
128. Many of the women here have written about enjoying the sex and the feelings even without being able to orgasm, but what do you mean by that exactly? I'm imagining a nice relaxing back massage that feels really good and comforting but isn't too intense. Is that the kind of feeling you are talking about, or is it a better feeling than a massage? I'm just trying to learn a little more so I can get a better understanding of the differences between men and women. I think if everyone tried to learn ways to please their partner and make sure they feel satisfied, we would all be a lot happier. (male)
     ♥  They mean that trying to find sexual satisfaction with ONLY intercourse is not giving them an orgasm. SO in essence they give up trying....rather than tell their partners and risking losing the relationship because guys are too wrapped up in their ego, women may fake orgasm during intercourse to please the guy and settle for not having sexual pleasure for themselves. So in order to justify being basically cowards, these women are telling themselves and others that they feel good enough with just the hugging and kissing rather than have good sex. MANY women DO NOT apply to this sacrificial standard and DO want to enjoy a good and healthy sex life. The problem is, unfortunately men and women both do not properly educate themselves in female sexuality and the ignorance resumes. Most guys use porn for a basis of what sex is, and that is incorrect information because it is male entertainment based on fantasy. Most women need clitoral stimulation not just plain intercourse for reaching orgasm. Hope that answers your question. Good for you for at least asking.
129. Many women, I have been with, enjoy orgasms but it's not absolutely nessesarly to have one. It's like my orgasm is somehow satisfying to them in a different way. Like an alter orgasm. The close intimate bonding brings them psychological satisfaction. I believe it's something in women's DNA that drives them to mate and be fertilized for future offspring. Just like males try and have sex with as many women as possible before they get too old. That's my thoughts anyways. (30 - 39 year old male)
     ♥  And where did you glean this information from Playboy or Hustler magazine? keep thinking like that and you will earn yourself quite a reputation, and it will not be a stud, or lady's man, or a man who women what to have a long term sexual relationship with. Women suffer from the same genital conjestion of their organs just like men do when they are sexually frustrated - getting excited during sexual stimulation and then do not have an orgasm as release of tension. The symptoms are similar, back pain, headache, muscle pain, mental depression, it can be agony and last up to 24 hours. Now, still think women like to be sexually frustrated by you? Think again.....
     ♥  Well I'm a 33 yr old man and I get off greatly when watching and feeling my partners every moan groan and body vibration and movement but like u said about women I get off in an emotional way cause I love her so passionately that knowing that she's feeling that amazing sensation of cuming makes me feel like I'm cuming not the actual scientific physical reaction but the immediate euphoria that comes along with the orgasm
     ♥  My gf enjoys pleasing me. Sometimes it's too much work for her to cum, and in those cases she still enjoys it. But other times she wants release.
130. I used to be able to orgasm easier during intercourse. Now I usually need a vibrator because I don't feel comfortable enough or maybe aroused enough to do it without one (long story). My husband often doesn't have the patience to wait for me or try to help it along anyway, and I don't like to ask. For whatever reason, I want to be able to have sex in the first place, and he has a lower drive than me, so I spend most of the times doing things to him and he's too tired to return the favour. He's getting better though.. I find it frustrating when I don't orgasm but most times I go into it expecting to not so I don't get over-aroused and then feel frustrated afterwards -- in those cases, it isn't some amazing experience.. it's an adequate one where I get intimacy, which is good as well. Although I admit, sometimes it can get a little boring quick knowing none of this is for me. (But I wouldn't let him know that.) On the times I thought we would have enough time for foreplay or anything designed to help me get off, and then I didn't orgasm in the end, yes, I was frustrated out of my mind. And no, I couldn't finish myself afterwards because I was so disappointed. (20 - 29 year old female)
     ♥  Uh....you are fooling yourself. Women are accustomed to not getting pleasure in sex....and they just stop trying to be pleased and start settling for being pleasing. I do not know any woman who really does not want to orgasm..we just mind-f%ck ourselves and say it is OK. We get tired of the guys' unwillingness to think about pleasing us. We settle for the other niceties of sex - physical closeness, attention. I like the big O just as much as any guy! O how relaxin!
     ♥  Bleh1 I won't settle for ok sex.
131. I have never enjoyed sex let alone reach an orgasm so I think I need help maybe about knowing my body or just knowing more about the act its self. (under 20 female)
     ♥  Someone is doing somthing wrong. sex Is great and soo Much fun. plz try and enjoy it and get the right person to arouse you.
     ♥  Get a vibrator..not a dildo. I was 43 when I had my first orgasm, and after being married 3 times! Believe me, get yourself a vibrator, and soon you will experience heaven in 5-7 minutes.
     ♥  Sex is very complicated. It's just [not] easy to find the right person who will care and just make the woman climax. Sex isn't ALWAYS great. Sometimes it's a massive annoyance. A vibrator is way easier than some sweaty dude who's clueless.
132. I fil so bad because i never reach organsm. (20 - 29 year old female)
133. He tries so hard I'm worked into a frenzy...then nothing. All that energy has too go somewhere so it's like a reverse atom bomb. It makes me nauseous and my lower abdomen aches painfully for hours. Sometimes I get so mad I think of cheating. I need my release too and now I'm anxious and can't sleep and of coourse mad at him even tho he tries till he has only 4 hrs to sleep. Love him don't want his ego hurt. NEED MY ORGASM! (30 - 39 year old female)
134. She told me that she not enjoying the sex. (70+ male)
135. To reach my orgasm,i just concetrate every step we take and help my partner what ever he make. (30 - 39 year old female)
136. I have never gotten a girl to orgasm durring penetration I often try to give her an orgasm by other means and if I am sucessfull it can take around 45 minutes even if she is extremely aroused although more often than not I cant manage and I get absolutely no directions or tips or anything no matter how much I ask and she assures me that she doesnt really care about orgasms but I have alot of trouble believing that since she clearly enjoys alot when she does, but it looks like she is always holding alot back which is a shame. (under 20 male)
137. I AM NEVER SURE IF I HAVE HAD AN ORGASM YET! (40 - 49 year old female)
     ♥  If you have to say you are not sure...means you have not. Get a good book on FEMALE sexuality, learn about your sex organ the CLITORIS, not the vagina, and begin to make up for lost time. I feel terrible that women are neglecting themselves like this!! How can you tell a man how to please you if you are ignorant of your own body parts and response????????
138. We only meet on weekends and so the first time is generally pretty quick and hot. The second time, we luxuriate and we concentrate on her pleasure. If we're not rushed, usually she can cum. Often, though, I notice that in order to make her cum I need to delay or minimize my pleasure. Also, after the first orgasm there's less semen and so the pleasure can be reduced. In such cases sex often becomes work for me, and orgasm isn't so great. Sometimes it's even uncomfortable. Sometimes, though, if she's very wet or if we add lubrication, and if we have time, we have wonderful simultaneous orgasms. If there's a third time, I concentrate on my pleasure. Same thing the next day usually. Having great sex requires time and patience. (40 - 49 year old male)
139. I neva enjoyed sex in my lyf,i hv 2kids nw 3 nd 1mnths.i crave sex everyday,day nd nyt i want even after i got sum i stl want it,i jst wish he can neva stops.i cnt say no im always ready i cry wen he cumz i jst wanna knw hw enuf feels lyk,is de sumthng i want drink or apply?im desparate plz help. (20 - 29 year old female who reports that orgasm is "impossible" for her)
140. I do not have difficulty reaching orgasm, often I find it happens far too quickly. I'm sure it sounds strange but sometimes I prefer not to, only because I want to focus completely on my partner, he does not seem to understand why I want to do that, but he does love it. (30 - 39 year old female)
141. When me and my bf have sex most of the time ,my bf comes way too early and then I am left unsatisfied and frustrated.Is there any way for me to learn how or to better my sexual experience? (under 20 female)
     ♥  He needs a well hung black guy in the wardrobe who doesn't mind sloppy seconds, he will do the trick, worked for my grandparents for years.
142. I feel great when ever i touch my pussy but i want learn more and make my to release sperm. [?] (30 - 39 year old female)
143. I have sex often but it's really hard for me to reach the point were I want too, be [but?] don't know if the problem lies with me. I'm very consern. (20 - 29 year old female)
144. I love my partner with all my heart, but the sex could be better. When we first got together, i had no problem reaching orgasm because he took the time to make sure it happened. Now, it's almost like sex is 5 minutes long and just for him... Even if I demand oral or other ways of getting off, his lack of enthusiasm turns me off. (under 20 female)
145. i feel like im not a real woman for failing to climax. (30 - 39 year old female)
     ♥  What steps have you taken to actually learn about your won body? Do you expect a man to teach you? They do not know anything other than how to con women into intercourse so they can have orgasms in your vagina....ignoring your sex organ the clitoris. GET EDUCATED and start having ORGASMS! Intercourse alone without clitoral stimulation does not do it for a woman. So unless you enjoy sexual frustration, start getting SMART!
146. Its so frustating not being able to climax i want to cry! No foreplay no nothing. He gets his and thats the end of story. Im buying me some toys!!! That should help me out for a little while. (20 - 29 year old female)
     ♥  Talk it out or leave.
147. I just want to be licked so I can cum before intercourse. (30 - 39 year old female)
     ♥  Nothing wrong with that. just enjoy. lucky you.
148. Iv never had a orgasm in my life. An iv tried everything for my age. But sex is still amazing unless its short. (under 20 female)
     ♥  Sex for a woman without orgasm is NOT amazing...it is frustrating and you are fooling yourself if you think that is fun. How many guys do you know enjoy intercourse without orgasm - NONE. Do you enjoy being a container for semen? If not, read about female sexuality and catch up to the times already!
     ♥  Maybe some women do enjoy sex without orgasm. She said it's "amazing." Why would she lie?
     ♥  A woman WILL lie to preserve a man's ego, or not risk him thinking she is "odd" or non-orgasmic.....and it is pretty certain he will think that, because most women fake during intercourse.....Women need more cliroral stimulation than intercourse can deliver. Men do not want to accept that fact, so women unfortunately keep men ignorant by fibbing and faking!
149. I actually used to masturbate often. I reached orgasm more times with video-sex too, but i first had real sex witha guy recently. And his view was different for the whole. He didn't assosiate with this whole climax-orientated sex, so we took as our goal to don't have orgasm in our intercourse. It was amazingly beautiful!! And I enjoyed it more than anything with orgasm before! ? (under 20 female)
150. I want to know that I use to climax always whe having sex but this few day I can't, is there something wrong? (20 - 29 year old female)
151. Want help to reach orgasm without difficulties. (30 - 39 year old female)
152. I do want to make pleasure longer before get on orgasm during sex. (30 - 39 year old female)
153. Some of these questions don't reflect me bc, for example, I may not have sex often bc have not been in relationship for a few months but if I was in one, I'd like sex 1-2 times a day. Also, re: do I enjoy sex w/o orgasms, I can as long as the majority of interactions result in orgasms. (40 - 49 year old female)
154. I don't get frustrated. it just seems that I can't. but my partner gets VERY frustrated that he can't get me to orgasm, he tries so hard! And often worries I don't like it. (20 - 29 year old female)
155. Id want to learn how to reach climax during intercourse so as il reduce mastabating. (20 - 29 year old female)
156. i want to reach squirting out real orgasm when having sexual intercourse in less than 15 munites..how will that be? (20 - 29 year old female)
     ♥  This is a male model of sex propogated by guess who...MEN. The skeins gland emptying on a female does not produce an orgasm. A woman's sex organ is her clitoris. Any guy trying to force this idea on you is forcing you to believe the notion that vaginal-penis intercourse will produce this "feamale ejaculation" for a woman. All it will do is empty the skeins gland, not produce an orgasm...but hey, the GUY will certainly get off using his penis poking about in your vagina trying to help you find it! Tell him to use ONLY HIS FINGERS not his penis and see how fast he drops that idea. LOL! These guys will tell a woman ANYTHNG as long as women stick to the old programming and do not educate themselves. Gusy are terrified that women will wise up and get sick and tired of non orgasmic intercourse and they will be left dating "Mary Fist" for the rest of their lives. With some of these rats, that is all they truly deserve. The clitoris is never mentioned enough as THE ONLY SEX ORGAN on a woman THAT PRODUCES FEMALE ORGASM. Indirect or direct stimulation. Any theories that say otherwise are disinformation.
157. I really don't enjoy sex without climaxing. And I don't ever climax. (under 20 female)
158. I always masturbate her to orgasm before intercourse. (20 - 29 year old male)
159. For me if I'm not Getting an orgasm at least once during foreplay or sex I get very tense and frustrated, and I tend not to enjoy the sex very much. To me it's important everyone deserves a partner who is willing to meet there needs. (under 20 female)
160. Pls help me cos im unable to reach my orgasm and my husband has left me for the past one month because of this. (20 -29 year old female)
     ♥  With a selfish jerk like that you are better off without him. If a guy expects a woman to get off by only intercourse without clitoral stimulation, that is asking the impossible. Seems to me he used that excuse of your not climaxing only to get out of the marriage altogether. Dump him, he is not worthy of you or your glorious womanhood.
     ♥  Maybe he tries stimulating your clit, etc. and you are unable to come. Even so, he still shouldn't leave you.
161. I have never had an orgasm or come durring intercourse. It's very frustratiing for my partner, he feels like he is doing something wrong. (HE'S NOT, IT'S GREAT!) I enjoy having sex even though it doesn't happen but I wish just one time it would. (under 20 female)
162. Only once I reached climax when I was 24 yrs...but now am not reaching climax while having sex ...only by fingering am able to y so..m I healthy in sex... (20 - 29 year old female)
163. I slept with 9 different mental [men???] for [before?] meeting my husband who happened to be a virgin and on the night he lost his virginity I actually had an orgasm and everytime after we have had sex I have orgasms on the leave [???] he is amazing. (30 - 39 year old female)
164. I'm 30 yrs old and only just started orgasming in the past few months with the help on battery opperated toys. My husband hates using them as he would prefer me to come with his help only -- which has never happened. We are trying to conceive so are having lots of sex. I feel so dissatisfied each time I don't come or he can't wait for me to come during sex, it's hard to not cry each time. He feels like he should be able to make me come himself and says it is demoralizing that I want to get the toys out. I feel guilty and that I need his permission to use them during sex. (30 - 39 year old female)
165. What can I do to help my wife to have climax during intercoures. (60 - 69 year old male)
     ♥  Read the Sheri Hite report on Female sexuality (long way). The short answer: while having intercourse either you or she stimulate her clit manually or with a vibrator...she will love you for it. Good guys at least TRY!
166. Frustrating - never had an orgasm. (under 20 female)
167. The pleasure for me seems to depend on the amount of her lubrication and on the amount of cum I eject. If she's very wet (maybe from added lubrication) and if thrusting and withdrawing stimulate my cock just right, I get huge and swollen and the orgasm feels hot, liquid and blissful. (30 - 39 year old male)
     ♥  And I bet your female partners will never orgasm with you.
168. i just dont find sex as good without the orgasm. and about question 7, i would want him to help me orgasm (if he did it first), but just no. [He doesn't help.] if i dont orgasm during sex i can just forget about it untill next time. ;/ (20 - 29 year old female)
169. Never orgasmed, my clit doesnt feel good at all, and sex is frustrating to me. I hate it. (under 20 female)
170. My husband is like a wam bam thank you mam. It never was like that, but for about the last 2=3 years he has not touched me nor did any foreplay with me. It's just stick it in, get his rocks of and then he is done he doesn't even worry about me. I am just glag it's over. Am I wrong for feeling that way? Could someone please give me some advice. (50 - 59 year old female)
     ♥  Refuse to be a human receptacle for a man's semen first, get some self respect and learn what YOU want in bed and go get it....hopefully a better sex partner!
171. My husband has premature ejaculation and doesn't understand the frustration and tension he leaves me with. I hate it. (30 - 39 year old women)
172. I don't know if i have reach an orgasm, i don't know how to tell if i have or not. (50 - 59 year old female)
173. after having sex with my husband for 20 years, i finally learned in my 40s, after a hysterectomy, how to have an orgasm. I never knew i wasn't orgasiming - i enjoyed the sex & didn't realize i wasn't climaxing. i feel it might have been a control thing - me not being able to let go. sex toys help me reach my orgasms. (40 - 49 year old female)
174. I'm a healthy sexually active 18 year old and I've never orgasmed during intercourse. It's a real bummer but that doesn't prevent me from engaging in the act as it feel great while I do it and human contact feels better over a toy or shower any day. (under 20 female)
175. It seems to be more emotional than physical for me. If I'm not really into the guy, then sex without orgasm is fairly boring. If I'm really into him, sex is great whether I have orgasms or not. That said, if I'm really into him I'm more likely to have one or more orgasms - but there are exceptions, like if I'm not feeling well (I have fibromyalgia) or on new medication, or haven't slept well, or just at a low point in my hormonal cycle. (20 - 29 year old female)
176. I've never been able to climax with him..but he can cum soon after sex..its very frustrating for me because i would love to have orgasm with him..i can climax by masterbating..but never try it after sex...i wonder what is the problem..i masterbate in a very unusual way like rubbing my pussy over the edge of a chair..and i need hearly few min to reach orgasm. please help.
177. Sex feels good in general, but it just zaps my energy and takes a lot of focus. (under 20 female)
178. I think she enjoys even without. (under 20 male)
     ♥  NOPE. Keep telling yourself that if you want to remain a lousy lover. In your age category, this type of comment does not surprise me.
179. My wife always comes before me and becomes ticklish right after her orgasm, so that really spoils the mood quickly..cannot touch her period...I'm left there high and dry..that sucks. (60 - 69 year old male)
180. I've only ever orgasmed through masturbation and once i learned how to I sort of became addicted and now am a very avid masturbater. I used to use toys but I've become good at pleasing myself with just fingers. I don't think ive ever really been with a guy concerned enough about me to care if i orgasm or not but the sex is usually great regardless. I think the stimulation of having a penis thrusting inside you is amazing. I can only imagine what that feels like in conjunction with an orgasm. (20 - 29 year old female)
181. Multiple Os! I've always been very sexual though, not a slut! Been with my bf 8 years. He's large so that helps, and I love him- that helps. But mostly be honest with yourself. Know what turns you on and use it! I have multiple orgasms usually and rarely don't reach one. (20 - 29 year old female)
182. I may be a little young to have started having sex but my girlfriend and I love each other, she always comes during sex. I always try to make her come, usually I will perform oral before vaginal intercourse and rub her clitoris during vaginal. She seems to enjoy sex a lot before she comes, which usually takes 10 minutes. (under 20 year old male)
183. What is the purpose of the female orgasm? My (uninformed) hypothesis is that a man who helps a woman reach orgasm will likely also be a man who loves his woman and will support her and her kids. So, if a man can bring a woman to orgasm it indicates he's a good man. Plus maybe it requires him to be healthy and have self-control.
184. Steps: 1) Foreplay. 2) Oral sex for female orgasm. 3) Penetration for male orgasm. 4) Not leaving. :-) To expound on answer #4: I have been separated from my wife for two years, and have had no partners in that time.
185. I have never had an orgasm before and don't know how to have one. (under 20 female)
186. I wnna cum while havin sex. (under 20 female)
187. I can enjoy sex everyday vit my wife she also love to do sex (20 - 29 year old male)
188. In actual fact i love and enjoy sex alot, but i'm not sure whether i do reach an orgasm. I dont know it's orgasm time but i do enjoy and i know when i've not enjoyed sex. So does that define orgasm? (20 - 29 year old female)
189. The first time we do it after being apart for a while, my gf is usually dry and tight. I can't last that long and she doesn't bother trying to come. The second time I last longer and we work hard at making her come. By the third time (often the next day), she's more open and says she's OK with not coming. She reports that she finds it really enjoyable when I come in her. She also says that she could come from penile thrusting alone if I did it at the right angle and lasted long enough, but I usually can't last long enough. (50 - 59 year old male)
190. After 40+ years together we are just trying to open up and do anything that feels good. (60 - 69 year old male)
191. The only time I don't enjoy sex without orgasm is if I'm extremely aroused. Then, its uncomfortable, painful and frustrating physically and emotionally. If I'm giving my body to my partner and I'm not aroused, I enjoy the closeness, pressure of penetration and knowlwdge that he at least will achieve orgasm. (40 - 49 year old female)
192. i want every times orgasm. (under 20 female)
193. love to have sex more then a hour but his sperm always comes out within 2 to 5 minutes....i believe my sex is higher then my partner....but once i had sex with other man but his pannis is too small that i could feel as my size of finger....i love larger pannis to have sex....n also sometimes i suck his pannis but he never lick my sexy pussy....love to have even 10 times sex per night (under 20-29 year old female)
194. Help me! am so ashamed of not having orgasm. (under 20 female)
195. I am a lucky woman as I can orgasm very easily with clitoral stimulation, which I do often during intercourse. Most, if not all of my partners has thought it was "HOT" that I touched myself during sex & it helps me to cum, which makes my partners very happy, as well as me. I am lucky to have not only a well-endowed partner but a long-lasting one. It makes me sad to see how many people are confused as to how to orgasm -- explore your body. Women that want to orgasm to please your men -- START PLEASING YOURSELF! You can't tell them how to get you off if you don't even know yourself! Women, stop letting your husbands use you as sex toy and demand better sex! The number one most attractive quality in a mate is a partner that enjoys sex. Women, initiate, take the reins, show them what you want! Men get lazy when they don't get results. Stop being afraid to get you some sex! Stop repressing yourself! Orgasms are not only amazing physically, but they truly bring me and my partner closer when we're able to climax together, due to good communication in bed. (female)
196. Womens use sex toys and say bad things and stuff about the man, right:)? Lets turn it around laydies okey:)?? what do you womens say if we men start buying sex toys to have fun with just like you womens have fun with Vibrators and Dildoes. we men shoud start buying fakes Pusssys with vibrators i am sure thats gonna be all fine for the womens. because i tryed those men toys they feel alot better then womens Vagina just saying:) so i honnestly just say let the womens play with there Dildoes and Vibrators its all fine because evryone knows its better to wank / using men sex toys you never get bored of the men sex toy:D so to all men buy sex toys for you're self and lets see how you're girl will react to it:). and the womens need to acsept it just like they think we shoud ascept them buying sex toys. ofc you womens feels its okey we men use sex toys dont you girls? :D
     ♥  Don't be ignorant. Women buy sex toys ONLY because they need extra stimulation to reach orgasms just like men are able to do by simple penetration. Have you ever had issue with reaching orgasm through regular sex? I highly doubt it! Women level the playing field with toys so they can have orgasms too. Educate yourself and you will understand that approximately 70% of all women DON'T have orgasms through just penetration. However, if you feel you need to buy a toy to have an orgasm, by all means do it. That's a very strange thing for a man to require for an orgasm though. It sounds as if you're threatened by a woman taking matters into her own hands to have the same pleasure that you have. Vey selfish outlook on a partnership. There are two people in the bedroom and both deserve pleasure!
     ♥  What a gender war!
     ♥  Don't be arrogant. Saying that women only buy sex toys to achieve orgasm is like saying ALL men seek prostitutes to feel satisfied.
     ♥  Few men have trouble climaxing with a woman, so they don't need sex toys. And for me, the emotional closeness and responsiveness of a loving, aroused woman could never be matched by any sex toy.
197. I don't enjoy sex when my partner penetrates in me unless he plays with my clitoris more. that is when I will reach orgasm. I want to enjoy it very well when he penetrates into my vagina. (20-29 year old female)
198. No way keep away from the clit. Will organism with a vibrator every time. Is 60 now. Been using a vibrator to orgasm since she was 19. (50-59 year old male)
199. I climax if he is gentle. the penis has to be fully panetrated & make moves slowly without pulling it out! So its hard 2 have him slow all the time coz I think he likes it more powerful pumps. (20-29 year old female)
200. I never orgasm through intercourse, only occasionally through oral sex. I can orgasm easily through masturbation. My husband is clueless! (40-49 year old female)
201. I think my partner is selfish the more i think of it. we have been having a sexual relationship for over 2 years and I had never once have orgasm. Even though we are in a long distant relationship so we don't see each other very often but whenever we do see each other we would have sex. To be fair, sometimes he couldn't have an orgasm too but only because he can't stay long and have to go, so we can't continue. But other times, after he came, he would just lay down. whatever happens to also take care of the lady's need. I know for a fact that with his ex girlfriend he had been petting her and by that he meant fondling, touching & stroking. he even told me that she was excited and became loud and moaned, My question is, why can['t] he do that for me too? it is always I who give him a blowjob to start, and then i get on top, then we switch to missionary. If he can't make the lady come with his penis, at least use his hand. (20-29 year old female)
202. but i never enjoy sex bc my bf doesnt even try to make me orgasam. (40-49 year old female)
203. I have learned not to expect to orgasm during sex. It takes too long - an hour at least these days - and my partner just cant stay "in the moment" with me for that long. He feels left out and distanced if I try to orgasm next to him. He tries to touch my legs or my breasts and be a part of the experience with me, but really, that just distracts me and makes orgasming even more difficult. So, to spare his feeling and keep me from feeling guilty, I have orgasms when I'm alone, and have the time. This sort of works, and I still like sex with him, which we have about 4 times a week. But I am struggling with feeling very distant from him because its so easy for him, and he just assumes my strategy works for me, and we are both happy. I think one of the reasons we have sex so often is that I'm never quite satisfied. (30-39 year old female)
     ♥  Never quite satisfied, huh? I find that even when I cum, during intercourse, it's kinda unsatisfying. Not every orgasm is great. If I have to concentrate on her pleasure or if I have cum recently, it's often somewhat uncomfortable. Great sex is kindof rare, end even when it happens the satisfaction doesn't last very long.
204. Frustrated wife, husband of 20 years cums soooo quick. I only need a man for 10 minutes and id cum - help. (40-49 year old female)
205. Sex without orgasm is every bit as unsatisfying for women as it is for men. Unfortunately, whether it's ego or excitement, in my experience, my husband is unable to follow my advice on how to please me. I've tried gentle, positive guidance and frank discussion, books, you name it. He does whatever feels good to him. As a result, masturbation is faster, easier, and far more fulfilling for me than sex with my husband. (30-39 year old female)
     ♥  Totally understand. I was in a marriage like that for 20 years until I finally had it. If I had to jerk off to have a climax all the time…what did I need HIM for? He was abusive, self centered, cheap, and lousy in bed. I finally realized I do not need a man for sex and got divorced. Now I am 16 years single and the happiest I have ever been. Just treated myself to the Hitachi vibrator and let me tell you -- men CAN be replaced -- sorry guys, until you step up to the plate and get a reality check - instead of living lives as imagined "porno" kings and mistreating women in bed, that is going to be the wave of the future: men will be obsolete for sex and if women want children, the sperm banks will be the place to go shopping. You men need to shape up! And if you think marrying foreign women ... yes, they will fake that you are a sex god to get a green card and into our country, then THEY will dump your selfish behinds too. SO, your call, guys!
206. I am a 31 years old I don't like sex if I just 1 round maybe 2 weeks time its enough but my husband is so active after first round he wants another round he even wake up in the middle of night and early in the morning. if he does 3 or 2 round he is so happy but I don't feel like doing it second time. 1 round its enough for me sometimes I don't even climmates. I ask him that is okey now he feels like I don't love him or I don't have feelings for him please help me out (30-39 year old female)
207. I perceive she is not interested in sex because of some of her health issues which are not sex related. She often works too hard and I perceive that she is too tired to really want to have sex. I feel like she will rarely be "well" enough to have sex despite the differences between male and female sexual desires, which we have discussed together. (70+ male)
208. When sex is over, the man is relieved and uninterested. There's no point in forcing him to get me off. He's just being nice and wishing for me to come quickly and get it done with. The fact that he doesn't want to turns me off so that I don't bother finishing myself off either. It's pretty unsatisfactory and frustrating. It's very unfair men get to come easily every time. (20 - 29 year old female)
     ♥  And WHY exactly are you putting up with this SOB who sabotages your right to have a healthy sex life? Do you enjoy the conjested feeling in your pelvic region and pain in the back when you do not have an orgasmic relief? It boggles my mind why women submit to these lousy lovers and stay and complain rather than kick their asses to the CURB. I have male friends for many years who LAUGH at their women for being so stupid to take what abuse they dish out, and lady this is sexual abuse if you do not yet know it. Stop being a door mat and leave this loser!! Get yourself a good man who loves sex in a positive way, not like a dictator; geeezzzzz.........
209. In the past, when sex was with someone I didn't love, sex without orgasm was a no-go. But today, I LOVE having sex with my BF! From the kissing to intercourse and all the stuff in-between. Not sure if it's because I'm head-over-heels or because I'm 30? I just have a hard time reaching climax. A lot of the time it feels like I'm about to reach but then it goes away, even with keeping the same pace/stroke. My BF doesn't understand that, even without orgasm, I LOVE being with him. It feels so good with or without. I do wish to go more often simply to please him. I don't want him feeling like I'm not satisfied. (30 - 39 year old female)
210. Sometimes i want a penis inside so bad i think i'll go insane. (50 - 59 year old female)
211. Seems I'm always guessing what she needs to be happy. 6 months ago she wanted foreplay with more than just clit stimulation including breats and touching. Now just clit stimulation and I better finish making her orgasm with penetration or she just gives up on me. I would like people to respond with email and my address is .... (30 - 39 year old male)
212. My boyfriend and I for threee years have been having intimacy but lately he ejaculates before i get to orgasm. It pisses me off to the point i don't want him to touch me. Or even be around..i hate it so much. (under 20 year old female)
     ♥  If you are only having intercourse and expecting "magic" to happen one day when you suddenly have an orgasm from that type of stimulation, forget it. Read about female anatomy and sexuality and discover how you as a woman can reach orgasm and then share that with your BF. However, if you are not into him by now and it is too late, you may not even bother with him since you allowed this to go on so long and keeping him and yourself in the dark. Very sad.
213. I recently just learned how to have up to 6 orgasms during love making. Its great! Everytime we have intercourse i have 4 or more orgasms a time! been married 9 yrs to same man no cheating & no toys just him! (20 - 29 year old female)
214. I am in mid 50, my partner 29. We have no problem in our sexual life. I normally take her to orgasm most time before i tried to climax myself. This is because i discovered that as long as i did not look into her face i won't climax. [Is he serious?] (50 - 59 year old male)
215. Still enyoy penetration and intimacy without orgasm, just love everything else: the foreplay and oraland intimacy. (over 70 female)
216. I reach orgasim without even really enjoying sex. how boring! (20 -29 year old female)
217. I'm 18, and have been sexually active with my one boyfriend for two years. He climaxes everytime. And I just can't unless I am on top. I've told him this many a time before. He doesn't understand. I can't climax otherwise. I get over it usually, but if it's the third or fourth time we've had sex in two weeks and I still haven't had any fufillment I get upset because of the frustration build up. I break his heart when he knows he cant make me climax. I just need to understand why this might be happening. (18 year old female)
     ♥  Seems to me he understands fine, just too selfish to be in a position that works for YOU because sex is all about HIM. I would dump this guy so fast his head would spin! Sex involves TWO people, and unless women stop being semen repositories for men and seek a satisfying sex partner, the guys will continue to use them in this way. Women need to stop being sexual sacrificial lambs!
218. i think all depend on emotional bonding. earlier we used to have sex very frequently, almost everyday. moreover i used to have orgasm every time. things got worse whith our emotional bonding. now i dont feel loved and cared by my husband so i dont feel like to have sex with him(so i masturbate when i'm alone). secondly even if i get aroused sometimes and have sex with him i dont have orgasm. I remember i had my last orgasm with him was 4-5 months back though i have orgasm everytime i masturbate. for me its all about emotional bonding and dependency. i'm so frustrated , dont understand what to do..... (30 -39 year old female)
219. I rub her clits to satisfy her, I want her orgasm during sex. Does it because my penis is small for her?
     ♥  Then RUB HER CLIT DURING INTERCOURSE....or have her do it if you want her to orgasm during intercourse. Did you need somebody to tell you that before you could figure it out yourself??????? Good Luck and Have fun!
     ♥  Rub her clit while having sex. My husband does it so can you. And no, size of penis don't matter because it's still not rubbing that clit.
220. I want to get help so that i will enjoy sex, not getting hurt or pain. (20 -29 year old female)
221. My girlfriend and I have great Sex we stimulate each other Partly before we have sex, I Wil never have an orgasm before Sex but she like's oral or G-spot Fingering she really absolutely Loves it and rubing her clitoris During sex makes her orgasm as Well soo we just talk to each other And if she's really not up for Any thing I let it go and our sex Is gr8 (Male's respect your Gorgeous wife's). (under 20 male)
222. Since it was me i never orgasm during sexual intercourse. i only orgasm when i masturbate but the strange thing is 2 years bck i had a onceoff sex whith a guy i usually knw and i did reach orgasm. that was the 1st time ever. with the guys i've dated i havent orgasm. dont know why. (20-29 year old female)
223. She gets orgasm by herself. (30-39 year old male)
224. I love sex with my partner. he always takes care of me, orgasm or no orgasm. :-) (20-29 year old female)
225. Have not hadhomosexual sex, and haven't had sex with my partner for over 7 years. cannot masturbate or get an erection any longer. (60-69 year old bisexual male)
226. my husband sexual part is so small. always i am suffering to get full climax during sex. please tell me what can i do. (30-39 year old female)
227. used to the situation (30-39 year old female)
228. So hard climaxing but my man's satisfaction I believe is my utmost priority (30-39 year old female)
     ♥  I think you deserve satisfaction too.
229. help me its so hard to and yes im a woman but wat do i do to have an orgasm everytime (20-29 year old female)
230. i am 22 and i am having sex with a women 47 years old she is amazing and sexy and i do love her more than my life to death and while intercourse i get so much exited and my cock is so hard and big and she is so much satisfied but the problem is that i can't cum or reach the trance and come so fast, it take more than one hour but her, she cum too fast so just i need to know how can i get cum fast and why it takes so much time with (20-29 year old male)
231. With the addition of lubricants sex is wonderful, i have been with ladies up to 75 years old. that one actually loved sex weekly. (60-69 year old male)
232. Sex starts before entering the bedroom. I like to greet my wife after she comes home from work by giving her a long hug and asking about her day. Sometimes we just embrace for several minutes without saying a word. As far as sex goes, we spend quite a bit of time just holding, touching and kissing. After that will I start to touch her breasts and pussy very lightly. Sometimes she will have me enter her and I will work her g spot with the tip of my penis. I then stimulate her clit and then guide her hand to it. She goes wild and explodes into an orgasm usually withing 15 mins. Sometimes I will stimulate her with a vibrator to get her going. A lot of times she prefers the more intense g spot orgasms. I usually use some lube and manually work her g spot until she has an orgasm that is so intense she is trembling. I put her orgasm before mine every time as I want her to feel completely satisfied. This also does another thing, it makes her want to have frequent sex. 33 years together and this boat is still rockin to the max. The main thing is that you have to know what each other wants and talk about what you like and don't like. I feel bad for the ladies that have men that do not care what their needs are. (50-59 year old male)
     ♥  MY KIND OF MAN!!! You rock mister! Set the example for all these selfish 20-something guys who are only into themselves and their own sexual pleasure! You put them to SHAME!!!
233. My husband is VERY concerned is I "get there" or not. I have not before and explain to him that it's ok with me. I wanted the closeness, the bond and the emotional tie, not the orgasm. He doesn't understand it but it does make him feel better. Otherwise he would think he didn't do his 'job'. (20-29 year old female)
234. My wife does not like her clitoris touched.... (50-59 year old male)
235. I had a hard time with the idea of becoming sexually active again. But a friend mine was starting to fall in love with me. I told him I wanted to try making love again. He let me take the lead and made me feel safe. I am 69 and he is 44 so the whole thing felt very exciting. The first few times were not easy as it had been over 20 years. It was a bit painful but now it is most enjoyable. (60-69 year old female)
236. I feel like I'm going to reach the climax. but if I don't I get frustrated and I panic. sometimes I fake as if I've reached. (40-49 year old female)
237. My husband cares only about his orgasm. He is a selfish lover. Men need to know that a LOT of women like intercourse and are orgasmic if they know their own bodies and their partners know their (women's) bodies. (60-69 year old female)
238. I take too long to come and I get dry too quickly. (20-29 year old female)
239. I would love to stimulate my wife's clitoris after intercourse, but she usually says don't touch there after intercourse. (40-49 year old male)
240. Honestly I hardly reach my orgasm but when I talk to my boyfriend during sex that have not reach my point he always looked at me like a sex lover. (20-29 year old female)
241. I really want to reach orgasm but I also don't like havingmy clit touched.I can have intintercourse for hours and stil not feel satisfied.I always just want more. (20-29 year old female)
     ♥  You need to push through that sensation because the clitoris IS your sex organ what will produce orgasm when stimulated. Maybe you need a lighter touch or different method of stimulation, but without using it, you are gonna lose it!
242. I have this weird spot above my clitoris. After rubbing it the right way for a bit, I go into this pleasure frenzy without having an orgasm. I literally have to stop or make my fiance stop because it is just too much. It is more pleasurable than an orgasm and that worries me. (under 20 female)
243. we don't do any foreplay at all. :( (40-49 year old female)
244. My boyfriend and I have sex once each month because we don't get to see each other often on weekends. The sex is very great and I sometimes wish it could never end but I never seem to reach an orgasm. I try not to fake it but he is so good I just have to. And everytime we done I have to go to the bath room to pee but whenever I finger myself I have an orgasm like 3 times in a row. (under 20 female)
     ♥  Why not show HIM how to do it then???? Are you waitng for him to guess? Come on gals, give the guys a break if you have a clue on what you like. If you tell him and he refuses to help you out sexually, then that is a different scenario...I'd dump him and find a better lover who cares about you too in the sack.
245. While sex feels good even without reaching orgasm, if I don't reach orgasm after it ends I am left frustrated and develop a migraine every time, and the only thing that'll cure it is orgasm. (female)
246. I think I have an active sexlife...might not be what I really want but so far my man turns me on and I enjoy his dick so much! (30-39 year old female)
247. Hi I need your help my husband trys every way possible to please me...I love the feeling,but unfortunetly its very hard for me to orgasm during sex.....I can't think of anything in the time of intercourse to arouse me (20-29 year old female)
     ♥  Try stimulating your clitoris during intercourse, it IS your sexual organ that is not getting reached by just penis-vagina contact. Good Luck.
248. am having too much discharge nd it changes colours but less fluid when having sex.i dont get horny even if i try i just have sex to please my partner and it has caused me an infection.what can i do to be horny so i can have fluid...pls help (20 - 29 year old female)
     ♥  Sounds like you should go see a doctor.
249. How can my man reach the clitoris in a second? (20 - 29 year old female)
     ♥  What do you mean?
250. I haven't been sexually active for almost a year and now i found a man and i spent a whole weekend with him and we had sex but i havent climaxed during sex that we had the whole weekend and it takes him a loooong time for him to enjaculate and me, I didnt evenn climaxe once... Is it becoz i havent been ative for a long time?? Plz help me. (20 - 29 year old female)
251. Am obssesed on musterbating more than having sex with him. b4 I gt horny i have 2 think how much i enjoy having musterbating, atherwise i will stay dry. (20 - 29 year old female)
252. When am with my man having sex am alwys pretend am come bt true Am nt come bt when am alone doin my self i do. plz help. wich homornes do i hve bio/ les am confused.
253. I find it pretty easy to reach orgasm by myself, especially activating my core muscles, but my clit seems to lose all sensitivity during intercourse. Still love sex though. (20 - 29 year old female)
254. Not having an orgasm makes me feel very frustrated and unsatisfied. It drives me crazy and makes me very angry. (20 - 29 year old female)
255. i have never had an orgasm, and i have never masturbated it sucks, i need help, someone please help me. (20-29 year old female)
256. Loving ok then y those blak men do a harsh mode and ...she enjoys..
257. I have a fuck buddy and have been with him for years. We hook up when we both happen to be single and I've been single for a while now. It didn't used to bother me that I never reached an orgasm because when we started I was young and just figured time and patience would help bring me one. When I turned 19 I started masturbating and it was fantastic. At this point though I realized it was kind of annoying to not orgasm during sex. I asked him if he would be willing to try oral sex or something with me to get me off, he said 'sure' and then it never happened. I brought a vibrator to help him out and asked him to use it on me, so he took it and used it for about 2 minutes and then just said "can't you just do it?". It has become pretty clear to me that he doesn't give two shits about whether or not I enjoy it. I always liked being cuddly and close to him because he was such a sweetie but now when it comes to sex he just doesn't care. I'm hoping next time I'm dating someone I can find someone that's interested enough to at least TRY to get me off. For now when I'm in the mood I guess I'll just keep calling my friend up to get some intimacy into my life. (20 year old female)
258. I try really hard i have sex for hours i listen to every thing she says and also see how she responds to all types of stimulation. but still only sometimes i can make her cum. but whats disheartning is after she she waits till she thinks im asleep and starts to masterbate it is quite upsetting cause i try so hard. and alot of the time she says she tired and that can go on for days but she still masterbates and wakes me up in the middle if i touch her she pretends to be asleep. its getting to the point where i feel of no use and its only when she wants to have sex we have sex. if i refuse her she treats me like im a horrible person its just it build a murderous rage up inside me i find my self banging my head off the wall in angry rage of emotion. it seriously hurts me inside. i love her with my heart and soul but i am getting to the point of exploding and doing somting horrible to her. there is noting worst than the fear of the unknown. she says shes open to me but ive asked her about it and shes denied it many times then its putting thing in my head like she is indirectly insulting me calling me stupid by saying she dose'nt do it i've stoped her just as she about to cum over and over again to test her she was in a horrible shit mood the next day and then i said you didnt sleep well last night she was very snide towards me so i proved my point if she was really asleep she wouldnt have been pissed at me i know its childish but the only was to counter some one being childish is to be childish back and i proved my point to her. any ideas what to do? because im a nice guy but i left this problem and it released my horrible side every one has one. all she had to do was be honest. cause went some one you loves lies to you it can make you bitter. it made me think she was unhappy and that she was cheating and many other horrible things. im all ways honest with her it wold be nice if she could be to it make me think every thing that comes from her mouth is lies bollocks and horse shit. is there anything i can do cause i feel as if i cant trust her any more. i love her so much tho (20 - 29 year old male)
     ♥  Be a man of honesty and tell her you want to share in her sexual pleasure, ask her to masturbate while having intercourse. It may take a bit of practice, and she might be too shy to let go in front of you....women have a tendency to watch ourselves and think if we cannot match the porn model of sex, that our man will think we appear strange or ugly seeing a woman have a real orgasm. Give it a shot, and good luck !
259. I find it easier with same partner and trust is built. I'm not in relationship had sex with few men nothing happens cause I'm not giving myself yet trust is Hugh for females (40 - 49 year old female)
260. My wife orgasms too quickly (in around 10 mins). Usually I use a mixture of foreful vaginal and gentle clitoral stimulation. After a few (which happens fairly quickly) she is too exhausted to even manually simulate me to my orgasm leaving me unsatisfied. (30 - 39 year old male)
261. please how you cane let me to have orgasm with my partner (40 - 49 year old female)
262. I think Divine Source wired us so that Mother nature protects us women: the men that deeply care about our pleasure and happiness, wellbeing, get repeat business, increasing the chance of offspring. The men who are all about themselves cant protect the women and family and probably wont get the chance. Hopefully more women will stand up to men that dont care if they please anyone but themselves, and refuse to create children with a jerk. Ive had it both ways, Ill never put up with a man who doesnt care if Im satisfied. Life's short! (50-59 year old female)
263. As is already stated that most woman they reach orgasms after 30yr old where this cause the frustration of knowledge regarding the matter. Maybe according to my opinion if a woman have sex with many mates before the age of 30 and not reaching the point then after she reaches the age and she get orgasms it will be the surprise and a pride she wil gave to the man who did that to her...But there are types or characters of WOMAN...Mostly woman does not enjoy every time sex or sex for every day they need to rest sex for some days for more desire to have sex and this gives woman getting wet pussy cause if you try unnatural lube to give the vagina wet it means you are forcing where there's no need so for that there could be no orgasms ..I experience that for some few years in many different ladies cause orgasms need a rough ride .so for man to make or let a woman orgasms she must naturally fully wet for even able to use condom. (40-49 year old male)
264. The absolute ONLY way I reach orgasm during intercourse with my partner is with a large, plug in the wall vibrator on my clit, which is very intrusive and impersonal and takes away all the excitement and passion of spontaneity. I am so completely beyond frustrated and jealous of men because they get to have an orgasm so easily every time. No wonder they always want it, and women stereotypically want it way less often. I'm not saying I never enjoy sex, but, again, I am extremely jealous. As a woman, anytime I've left a man "high and dry," so to speak, I'd never hear the end of it. Yet the man can finish and rolls over and is snoring in seconds. No matter how aware they are of my difficulty reaching orgasm or how caring they seem. It's always the same and it makes me angry. I'd like to rub a man's dick for fifteen minutes without him reaching orgasm, stop abruptly, roll over and snore the night away. Yeah let's see how that goes. (20-29 year old female)
265. When I have to make my gf cum, sex is less fun and I admit I resent it. I do it to please her but often don't enjoy it so much. I wonder how male sexual pleasure correlates with female pleasure. Maybe they have negative correlation, meaning that when the woman enjoys it the man doesn't. :) For women who cum fast men probably have more fun. (40-49 year old male)
266. men should now dat we have feelings on high percetanged. women love sex than men give t all to them. (20-29 year old female)
267. When I was 22 I began squirting... I had no idea what I did or how I did it...I enjoyed sex but rarely did I have a clitoral orgasm. About 3 years later I began dating a guy with a very similar "anatomy" and Presto! started squirting! It felt incredible so I did some research and now I know that my "g" spot is where it's at for me! I can usually wiggle around enough to make sure I get mine several times, guess I'm still making up for all those years! (50-59 year old female)
268. Never had a guy get me there. It's frustrating to the point I let them believe they did so they won't pout, etc. (50-59 year old female)
269. I really want her to orgasm but she isn't willing to try anything different. (60-69 year old male)
270. Well my issue is I have a wife who doesn't like to talk during sex, she seems to just lay there and take it, she has a hard time getting in the mood she says cause of having kids took her sex drive away. But I try to make her feel sexxy all the time I'm always complimenting her cause a man should! I just feel like either my Rick is to small which I doubt cause I'm 7 inches so I'm abit above average, but anywho she just seems to only finish when she's on top. I love doggy style but she says it hurts when I take her that way, and everything else seems to bother her, like she just does like anything I try to do! Anything! Is she in to me? Bored by me? Do I need a bigger cock? What is it? Can any honest women tell me? What am I doing wrong? Is she interested in other men? Or cheating? An answer to this would bring my self esteem up a notch cause man if I didn't come on to her... I don't know if I'd ever get to make love to her. P.s. please! Be honest. Thank you. (30-39 year old male)
     ♥  Try talking about sex when you are NOT having sex. It has NOTHING to do with size or lasting longer guys, it is all about women not getting stimulation to their clitoris, which is like the underside of your penis in sensitivity, that is what gives HER orgams. If you did not have your glans stimulated in intercourse, you would not orgasm. For women it is the opposite. Vagina-Penis intercourse only give INDIRECT stimulatin to HER sex organ, making it next to impossible for HER orgasm. Women get resentful when guys do not consider their pleasure. Talk to your wife and ask her what is going on. Hope it is not too late for you to get reconnected and enjoying each other again. Good Luck!
271. After menopause at age 45, it has been impossible to reach orgasm without a vibrator. Before menopause, I always came throughout oral sex and sometimes thought sex if I was on top. It is extremely frustrating and distressing and consumes me which probably leads to more anxiety. I hate it because I'm with a man I love and we've been together over a year. He is the first man I haven't climaxed with with a sexual aid and it is devastating for him as me. I'm almost 53 now and this has been going on for 3 years. I'm trying to slowing get away from using the vibrator as a crutch and learn to masturbate with the hope that I can orgasm with him. Toys get in the way sometimes. I don't know any of my friends who have this issue and it's extremely depressing for me. (50-59 year old female)
272. I personaly have never enjoyed sex with my partner i only get to do so when i get to musturbete myself.what could be wrong with me? (20-29 year old female)
     ♥  Nothing is wrong, probably. It's common. You probably need to have more touching, kissing, etc.
273. I haven't been sexually active for almost a year and now i found a man and i spent a whole weekend with him and we had sex but i havent climaxed during sex that we had the whole weekend and it takes him a loooong time for him to enjaculate and me, I didnt evenn climaxe once... Is it becoz i havent been ative for a long time?? Plz help me. (20 - 29 year old female)
274. Am obssesed on musterbating more than having sex with him. b4 I gt horny i have 2 think how much i enjoy having musterbating, atherwise i will stay dry. (20 - 29 year old female)
275. When am with my man having sex am alwys pretend am come bt true Am nt come bt when am alone doin my self i do. plz help. wich homornes do i hve bio/ les am confused.
276. Loving ok then y those blak men do a harsh mode and ...she enjoys..
277. I have a fuck buddy and have been with him for years. We hook up when we both happen to be single and I've been single for a while now. It didn't used to bother me that I never reached an orgasm because when we started I was young and just figured time and patience would help bring me one. When I turned 19 I started masturbating and it was fantastic. At this point though I realized it was kind of annoying to not orgasm during sex. I asked him if he would be willing to try oral sex or something with me to get me off, he said 'sure' and then it never happened. I brought a vibrator to help him out and asked him to use it on me, so he took it and used it for about 2 minutes and then just said "can't you just do it?". It has become pretty clear to me that he doesn't give two shits about whether or not I enjoy it. I always liked being cuddly and close to him because he was such a sweetie but now when it comes to sex he just doesn't care. I'm hoping next time I'm dating someone I can find someone that's interested enough to at least TRY to get me off. For now when I'm in the mood I guess I'll just keep calling my friend up to get some intimacy into my life. (20 year old female)
278. I try really hard i have sex for hours i listen to every thing she says and also see how she responds to all types of stimulation. but still only sometimes i can make her cum. but whats disheartning is after she she waits till she thinks im asleep and starts to masterbate it is quite upsetting cause i try so hard. and alot of the time she says she tired and that can go on for days but she still masterbates and wakes me up in the middle if i touch her she pretends to be asleep. its getting to the point where i feel of no use and its only when she wants to have sex we have sex. if i refuse her she treats me like im a horrible person its just it build a murderous rage up inside me i find my self banging my head off the wall in angry rage of emotion. it seriously hurts me inside. i love her with my heart and soul but i am getting to the point of exploding and doing somting horrible to her. there is noting worst than the fear of the unknown. she says shes open to me but ive asked her about it and shes denied it many times then its putting thing in my head like she is indirectly insulting me calling me stupid by saying she dose'nt do it i've stoped her just as she about to cum over and over again to test her she was in a horrible shit mood the next day and then i said you didnt sleep well last night she was very snide towards me so i proved my point if she was really asleep she wouldnt have been pissed at me i know its childish but the only was to counter some one being childish is to be childish back and i proved my point to her. any ideas what to do? because im a nice guy but i left this problem and it released my horrible side every one has one. all she had to do was be honest. cause went some one you loves lies to you it can make you bitter. it made me think she was unhappy and that she was cheating and many other horrible things. im all ways honest with her it wold be nice if she could be to it make me think every thing that comes from her mouth is lies bollocks and horse shit. is there anything i can do cause i feel as if i cant trust her any more. i love her so much tho (20 - 29 year old male)
     ♥  So she doesn't cum then you are pissed when she masterbates after? How would you like it if you couldn't cum during sex then she wouldn't even let you get release after? That sounds like controlling crap to me. Being childish isn't going to help anything, I bet you masterbate, what right do you have stopping her all the time. I think you guys need to grow up or forget it.
279. I find it easier with same partner and trust is built. I'm not in relationship had sex with few men nothing happens cause I'm not giving myself yet trust is Hugh for females (40 - 49 year old female)
280. My wife orgasms too quickly (in around 10 mins). Usually I use a mixture of foreful vaginal and gentle clitoral stimulation. After a few (which happens fairly quickly) she is too exhausted to even manually simulate me to my orgasm leaving me unsatisfied. (30 - 39 year old male)
281. please how you cane let me to have orgasm with my partner (40 - 49 year old female)
282. I think Divine Source wired us so that Mother nature protects us women: the men that deeply care about our pleasure and happiness, wellbeing, get repeat business, increasing the chance of offspring. The men who are all about themselves cant protect the women and family and probably wont get the chance. Hopefully more women will stand up to men that dont care if they please anyone but themselves, and refuse to create children with a jerk. Ive had it both ways, Ill never put up with a man who doesnt care if Im satisfied. Life's short! (50-59 year old female)
283. As is already stated that most woman they reach orgasms after 30yr old where this cause the frustration of knowledge regarding the matter. Maybe according to my opinion if a woman have sex with many mates before the age of 30 and not reaching the point then after she reaches the age and she get orgasms it will be the surprise and a pride she wil gave to the man who did that to her...But there are types or characters of WOMAN...Mostly woman does not enjoy every time sex or sex for every day they need to rest sex for some days for more desire to have sex and this gives woman getting wet pussy cause if you try unnatural lube to give the vagina wet it means you are forcing where there's no need so for that there could be no orgasms ..I experience that for some few years in many different ladies cause orgasms need a rough ride .so for man to make or let a woman orgasms she must naturally fully wet for even able to use condom. (40-49 year old male)
284. The absolute ONLY way I reach orgasm during intercourse with my partner is with a large, plug in the wall vibrator on my clit, which is very intrusive and impersonal and takes away all the excitement and passion of spontaneity. I am so completely beyond frustrated and jealous of men because they get to have an orgasm so easily every time. No wonder they always want it, and women stereotypically want it way less often. I'm not saying I never enjoy sex, but, again, I am extremely jealous. As a woman, anytime I've left a man "high and dry," so to speak, I'd never hear the end of it. Yet the man can finish and rolls over and is snoring in seconds. No matter how aware they are of my difficulty reaching orgasm or how caring they seem. It's always the same and it makes me angry. I'd like to rub a man's dick for fifteen minutes without him reaching orgasm, stop abruptly, roll over and snore the night away. Yeah let's see how that goes. (20-29 year old female)
285. When I have to make my gf cum, sex is less fun and I admit I resent it. I do it to please her but often don't enjoy it so much. I wonder how male sexual pleasure correlates with female pleasure. Maybe they have negative correlation, meaning that when the woman enjoys it the man doesn't. :) For women who cum fast men probably have more fun. (40-49 year old male)
286. men should now dat we have feelings on high percetanged. women love sex than men give t all to them. (20-29 year old female)
287. When I was 22 I began squirting... I had no idea what I did or how I did it...I enjoyed sex but rarely did I have a clitoral orgasm. About 3 years later I began dating a guy with a very similar "anatomy" and Presto! started squirting! It felt incredible so I did some research and now I know that my "g" spot is where it's at for me! I can usually wiggle around enough to make sure I get mine several times, guess I'm still making up for all those years! (50-59 year old female)
288. Never had a guy get me there. It's frustrating to the point I let them believe they did so they won't pout, etc. (50-59 year old female)
289. I really want her to orgasm but she isn't willing to try anything different. (60-69 year old male)
290. Well my issue is I have a wife who doesn't like to talk during sex, she seems to just lay there and take it, she has a hard time getting in the mood she says cause of having kids took her sex drive away. But I try to make her feel sexxy all the time I'm always complimenting her cause a man should! I just feel like either my Rick is to small which I doubt cause I'm 7 inches so I'm abit above average, but anywho she just seems to only finish when she's on top. I love doggy style but she says it hurts when I take her that way, and everything else seems to bother her, like she just does like anything I try to do! Anything! Is she in to me? Bored by me? Do I need a bigger cock? What is it? Can any honest women tell me? What am I doing wrong? Is she interested in other men? Or cheating? An answer to this would bring my self esteem up a notch cause man if I didn't come on to her... I don't know if I'd ever get to make love to her. P.s. please! Be honest. Thank you. (30-39 year old male)
     ♥  Sheg's probably physically tired and preoccupied with stresses of being a mom depression and hormones can also affect the libido which after having kids definitely happens . If this is the case you medical doctor can help. Also sometimes after having a baby she may be self conscious about her body and ESP her vagina it may also not be as tight . Kegel exercises help for the tightness and sensitivity issues the body issues she has to let go mentally if that is also part of the problem . If it is painful for her to have sex this is a problem and she should see an ObGyN to help her . It could be a combo of any of these things but most likely the disinterest is related to hormone imbalance and stress
291. After menopause at age 45, it has been impossible to reach orgasm without a vibrator. Before menopause, I always came throughout oral sex and sometimes thought sex if I was on top. It is extremely frustrating and distressing and consumes me which probably leads to more anxiety. I hate it because I'm with a man I love and we've been together over a year. He is the first man I haven't climaxed with with a sexual aid and it is devastating for him as me. I'm almost 53 now and this has been going on for 3 years. I'm trying to slowing get away from using the vibrator as a crutch and learn to masturbate with the hope that I can orgasm with him. Toys get in the way sometimes. I don't know any of my friends who have this issue and it's extremely depressing for me. (50-59 year old female)
292. I personaly have never enjoyed sex with my partner i only get to do so when i get to masturbete myself. what could be wrong with me? (20-29 year old female)
     ♥  You are NORMAL, but a selfish guy would do his utmost to convince you that "there is something wrong" with YOU. Guys are stupid, they refuse to read credible material about female sexuality, and rather watch porn and think that is the way sex works...it doesn't. And women refuse to stand up for themselves and demand better sex, so we turn out more stupid than men...a bunch of complaining sacrificial lambs waiting for the magic penis to come along. Guess what....there is no such thing. There should be proper sex education other than this goes there sort of mentality, and not just about reproduction. Sex education is left to the individual, and if you are lazy and waiting for the apple to drop into your lap, you will miss out on great sex. Get off your duffs and read something other than Playboy!!
     ♥  You're fine. Maybe a different partner...or your being shy or seilfish
293. Some women cang't have orgasms. Some women struggle but do rarely have them. Some women have them sometimes. Some women have them most of the time. Some women can have them every time they masterbate or have penetrative sex. Some women can only orgasm with their clitoris, others their Gspot. Every woman is different and should not try to be like everyone else, they should adjust and learn their bodies with or without a partner. I myself am a very easy orgasmic woman. I can orgasm from the initial penetration of my partner's penis. I can have so many orgasms before my partner has his first that I need a break or for him to finish soon. Women should not be just put under the 'Female' category, they are each individual and their responses to stimulation are too. (20-29 year old female)
294. my sexual timing is less becaz the access of hand job, my wife did not fully enjoy because i ejaculate earlier than her. please help me how can i increase my sexual timing. does this disease will go longer with me or it can be controlled, if it can b controll than tell tell me how ? somebody help me plz. can mail me on ... (20-29 year old male)
295. What workes for my gf and me is for me to rub the tip of my cock up and down along her pussy lips til she gets aroused. then she fingers herself while I vibrate the tip on the lips. If I penetrate and fuck too soon, I'll likely cum too fast. I have to wait til she's coming before I penetrate. (40-49 year old male)
296. I am a woman who is 28 years old. I have been having intercourse since i was 14. I have never had an irgasm through intercourse or during unless i touch myself during and it is awful. Doing so is irritating and annoying. I have been hugely dissapointed in sex because of this and incredibly sexually frustrated that I can't have the same experience my partners do. Whoever said it is not as important for women to experience an orgasm during sex is out of their mind because it doesn't even feel like sex to me without havin this ability. There is absolutely no point in having intercourse. (20-29 year old female)
     ♥  Why is it awful that you need to touch yourself? Many women have to. Blame Mother Nature or God.
     ♥  Why not show your partner how to touch you? I hope you don't think your private parts are dirty.
297. it will realy mean a lort for me to orgasm. (20-29 year old female)
298. I will fuck you so good you will have more then one. Email me at .... (50-59 year old male)
     ♥  LOL! I bet this man has not seen a hard-on since 1980. Save it, mister "STUD PUPPET". I think the ladies will be taking a pass.
299. I'm 32 yrs old mostly straight female ( Kinsey scale and all; eyes wander but mostly attracted to males and only interested in sexual acts with cia males). Things I've noticed starting around age 26 that my libido has gradually increased as I've gotten older to the point I feel like what the media is always describing a male brain as( sex,sex,sex)has become my brain lol I told my bf wow this is what it must ve felt like when you were a teenager haha . I've definitely noticed that the cycle of my period does effect the intensity of my libido and the sensitivities of my erogenous zones making it at times very difficult to reach orgasm but still receiving pleasure, or the opposite incredibly sensitive and receiving multiple orgasms. More than not I'm a multiple orgasm girl who also squirts( more like gushes) . I've also noticed when I'm preoccupied with stresses or hypersensitive about the weight I've gained or feel like I've gained I feel less sexy, embarrassed and it's definitely harder to climax especially when I'm self conscience about where he puts his hands and what if he doesn't like it or thinks wow she s gained weight or I don't like that I wish she didn't put on that 10lbs . He never says that but my internal dialogue does and I have to train myself to shut it down. I also do notice that the healthier I am and more fit and in shape the more confident I am sexually but also the more we give my erogenous zones are . I was raised very conservatively and once I was able to throw out the good girl bad girl notions and realize sex is healthy my libido sky rocketed . I think sometimes maybe all these women who have a hard time climaxing has a lot todo with preoccupations and possible the internal dialogue of a patriarchal society of what women are supposed to be and act like. Throw it all out and enjoy life and the sex that comes with it. Tips : NIPPLES !!! And all that involves them. Kissing, breathing whispering just behind the ear some what side/ back of the neck, I prefer tapping of the clit; perineum, light finger strokes like your drawing with your I her tips lightly around the body but also the inner thighs, vulva, vagina and to really give me a big O place two fingers in my vagina towards my belly bottom and move your fingers " in a come hither motion" also alternate tapping on my g spot and apply pressure on my pelvic region with the other hand you can also use your thumb to stimulate the clit. And sometimes my bf will surprise and suck my nipples all at the same time. WOW!!! AMAZING! I also love it when the bf slaps my butt and squeezes it ! All these things I enjoy and send me to the moon and luckily he enjoys it as well ! :) (30-39 year old female)
300. For us, sex is all about the fun, humour and how much we love each other. I've always been difficult and we just deal with that. I take what pleasure I can, and though he gets distressed that I can't get off most of the time, I'm slowly getting him 'trained' to understand that it's not a huge deal for me, that everything else is still wonderful and well and truly 'enough'. (20-29 year old female)
301. I find it pretty easy to reach orgasm by myself, especially activating my core muscles, but my clit seems to lose all sensitivity during intercourse. Still love sex though. (20 - 29 year old female)
302. Not having an orgasm makes me feel very frustrated and unsatisfied. It drives me crazy and makes me very angry. (20 - 29 year old female)
     ♥  Amen to that!
303. i have never had an orgasm, and i have never masturbated it sucks, i need help, someone please help me. (20-29 year old female)
     ♥  Why don't you try masturbating? Shy about it?
304. I can't understand why men don't take the time to make sure she gets off. Men know they are always going to get theirs so take the extra time to make sure she gets hers! Trust me you will be very happy you did. As for the ladies, the number one thing you need to be able to do is relax! If you're having sex with this man it means you must trust him so let yourself relax, don't over think and PLEASE tell the man what u do and do not like! Hearing you tell us how wonderful something feels or how u like things a certain way is an absolute turn on. After all, it is you we are trying to please. :-) (20 - 29 year old male)
     ♥  Good point! Men need feedback so that they can know what pleases the woman. Are women keeping that information secret? Are they shy about it?
     ♥  Problem is that half of the women today are ignorant about their own bodies because of as suppressed society which tells them nice girls avoid sex, and half the men think sex is all about their penis...it's a case of the blind leading the blind, and since intercourse works for male orgasm, they believe it should also be the answer for female orgasm. WRONG! So until people begin to care enough about their sex lives and get educated, this dynamic will prevail.
305. my wife does not allow me touch her clitoris and stimulate her. (40 - 49 year old male)
306. My wife had what she said was her first orgasm with me shortly after we first met, from clitoral stimulation. She was very vocal and whenever we were at her house she insisted that she only give me a hand job. When we moved in together I tried to teach her to use a pillow to muffle her screams, but she really only relaxed enough to orgasm when we were on holiday. Now we have two children and she protests whenever I try to stimulate her clitoris, saying that it hurts, and that she only enjoys penetration. I recently bought her a vibrator and made it clear that I don't mind her using it whether alone or with me, I can only hope that this prompts her to rediscover her sexuality. (40 - 49 year old male)
307. My woman enjoy clitoris stimulation with penis not with hands to reach climax.she hate penetration, it hurts her with or without foreplay.I like penetration,pls comment. (40 - 49 year old male)
     ♥  Perhaps you need to use extra lubrication. If intercourse is painful for her, she should see a doctor.
     ♥  How about trying to put just the tip of your penis in and out of her vagina, with lubrication, just enough for what pleases you. Do you touch her gently enough with your hands?
     ♥  If she is not lubricating naturally it is most likely because she is not turned on enough (considering she is healthy or not having menopausal dryness) so try spending more time with the sort of sexual activity that gets her going, see if that works. And always communicate with each other, very important.
308. Would love to know how to cum more than once cos I feel more sexually active when having an orgasm! (30 - 39 year old female)
309. I've been with my fiancé for a year and half, I'm completely in love with him, and we have sex regularly. I started birth control about 4 months ago. The problem is a have NO sex drive. Most the time I don't even have the desire o masturbate. And when I want him the desire usually goes away after a few minutes. Ie only ever orgasmed during sex 3 times and they were never very strong. I feel bad because he wants to please me but can't. I don't know what to do. (under 20 female)
310. It has always been dificult for me to reach orgasm but when I got married my husband brought me to orgasm for the first time, I had never experienced it before then of course it was orally.Since then we tried various diffrent ways for me to reach my climax but nothing else would work except maybe rubbing my citoris directly with my finger or with his but no matter which way it was it always took forever. My husband and I have been married now 28yrs and over the years it has changed drastically. It was virtually impossible for me to acheive orgasm after a while no matter how hard I tried I could never seem to get there and then I read about the magic wand massager by hitachi and the wonderful miracles thatit could accomplish so I ran right out and bought one and to my surprise it was wonderful the most glorius orgasms I had ever experienced I wanted more and more I found myself using it whenever I could all the time until soon that didn't work either so I started to panic. I started to read verything and anything to tell me what was wrong and nwhy my clitoris was not working correctlu and in the meantime i stopped using the wand and ust let my husband continue to try to stimulate me orally the funny thing was he gotme so hot till I was right on the cusp of climax but then for some crazy reason right whe3n I should of climaxed is wen my clitoris felt dead again like numb I cant explain it and I couldnt fix it but at the same time since I was trying so hard to orgasm I guesss all the pressure of me pushing along with all the incredible stimulation my husband was giving me something happened that I had never felt before I got really dizzy fainted I think right after the world exploded in my head aND between my legs I had erupted this clear fluid it ust sprayed and poured out of me like a soda pop bottled being opened after it has been dropped it was crazy we were amazed confused elated msatisfied and astonished but at the same time completely exhausted and wet, I mean really wet we had no idea where it was all coming from (it had all come from me of course) as wonderful as this new discovery was I was still so scared that my clitoral orgasm was gone forever so what was I gonna do well for a little while I ust tried to forget about it my husband said its stress it will come back ust forget about it honey so i tried and each time we made love he would try to get me there and each time the same things would happen almost climax then right at the eureka numbness and then I would feel like I had to push and then suirt and gush all over the aheets bed carpet pillows eachother everywherein the meantime I had retired the hitachi as i became afraid that it was the reason that I got numb that maybe I had used iit so much that I destroyed all the nerves in my litoris that help me to feel and to get to orgasm I didn't know but I was scared so I ust thought if we continue to keep tryin without anything other than his tounge and when I was alone my fingers that maybe my clitoris would come back to me so thats what we did but that never happened and till this day still has not happened I cannot reach orgasm from my husbands tougne anymore at all or from our fingers at all it is always the same thing I get right where I am supposed to be and right wen its supposed to happen DEAD DEAD DEAD then PUSH gush gush gush. What can I do Where has my clitoral orgasm gone why am I getting numb right at the point of climax and why do I have this totally euphoric explosion of cum pour out of me.....will I ever get my clitoral orgasm back - dont get me wrong i love what is happening to me but at the very same time I miss my clitoris terribly I really want my clit back do you know the answers to thee questions and can you please explain them to me (under 20 female)
     ♥  The gushing you speak of is fluid from the skeens (skeins) gland. (Chk spelling) It's called the "female ejaculate" but it is not considered an orgasm. The clitoris is the sex organ of the female, many make derrived theories like to get us back into the vagina again looking for "G spots" and "deep spots" because it favors penile intercourse.- which favors MALE orgasm. You may have experienced a blended orgasm in correlation to the skeens gland emptying. SP skeins gland? It is similar to the male prostrate gland located via rectal probing. Men claim to orgasm in same fashion when that gland is stimulated.
311. I've been together with my gf for 9 years and it keeps getting better. It's always different too. It seems that we discover new ways to do it: different angles, different strokes, different rythyms. (30-39 year old male)
     ♥  The possibilities down there are endless.
312. My wife used to orgasm regularly but since the menopause and also being diabetic she now rarely orgasms (50-59 year old male)
313. I have problem when im having sex with my man i dont have climax but when im on top i can have organs. (female)
314. Why would I want to have sex when i cannot reach a climax? I mean touching and kissing is great, but the actual sex should give some kind of pleasure and without an orgasm it doesn't do that. So why settle for less? (under 20 female)
315. because of intercourse without orgasm woman turned as a nagging wife. (50-59 year old male)
316. My 61 year old partner is the love of my life, my childhood sweetheart! I found him again after leaving 37 years in an abusive marriage. At age 60, I'm having the time of my life. He removes the clouds from my sky... Making Love with this beautiful man is mutually satisfying and fulfilling. Finding a man, that put my mind, body and heart before his own..... Makes our love-making and life together why I again say, "The love of my life!" (60-69 year old female)
317. Many times I can have sex with my girl for say 30 min. In this amount of time she will have orgasm-ed muli times, maybe 5,6 or 7 including foreplay . Sometimes the orgasms become too close together and we have to stop because she says it is uncomfortable. (50-59 year old male)
318. What happen if a female doesn't cum in a long time out of her life wht happen to the body?
319. ive been struggling for years with this my husband ALWAYS comes i NEVER do atless [unless] im drunk and i have never had a orgasim with rubbing my clit actully i dont even use pentration when i masterbate always thought that was odd but latley the lack of climax has been taking a toll on my relations ship he get to finish everytime and i spend 10 minutes after sex fighting back tears because im so sexually frustrated he knows this is a issue and dosent really say much other then sorry kinda heart broken i love my husband we have a beautiful 6 month old daughter our 1st and the problems just seem to get worse sence i also feel like a fat whale compared to him sence ive had her and cant seem to lose the wieght sex is now akward and i know its got to be hard to move me around sence im so big (20-29 year old female)
320. I want her to orgasm every time, I love it. Sometimes I cant orgasm if she does not. (30-39 year old male)
321. My BF sucks in bed because he is selfish and full of himself. He believes he knows more about my body and needs than I do, so it's nearly impossibly to get him to take or suggestions seriously. I've given up on having sex with him because there's just no use since the pleasure is all one sided and I'm more sexually frustrated now than I've ever been when I was single. (20-29 year old female)
     ♥  It would appear he knows little or nothing about your body and mind, ditch the self centred freak, leave him with only his right hand. Find yourself a guy that will worship your form and wants to stimulate you to orgasm everytime.
322. My partner says her clit starts to hurt closer she gets to orgasm. My penis is 9.5 inches long and she seems To love it in her vagina. She will even give me oral for over a hour. I seem to last 1-4 hours depending on if I can orgasm. I can't orgasm cuz she don't n feel like it's not fair but we can have amazing sex. She doesn't seem interested in oral. Actually we have talked & tonight will be my second time going oral on her. I just 2 me seems she don't want a orgasm cuz she get close then starts telling me it hurting her. I wanna get her off like every man does with his female. (40-49 year old male)
323. In order for me to reach an orgasm during sex I have to masturbate during sex I have been doing that for a while I would like to start reaching them without touching my self. (30-39 year old female)
     ♥  Most women find that clit stimulation during penetration is the best. Sorry, but anatomy is against you if you strive for intercouse alone to do the trick...look for frustration to be the outcome. No penis can bend into an angle to hit the outer areas of the clitoris, at best indirect stimulation of the inner upper roof of the vagina via intercourse might work, but generally not enough contact is provided for inner, clitoral contact. Stick with what works would be my advice.
324. Hi, I am a man and always have to make my wife orgasm, I feel less of man and more so less of a decent sexual partner if I don't. My wife claims she can live without it but in the 17 years together we have only failed to on a few occasions, women do and should enjoy orgasms, men do and should. Partners probably claim they don't need it so it doesn't hurt the others feelings, I love to make my wife cum its my sole aim in sex, to please my wife is the aim. (30-39 year old male)
325. When we first got married my wife found it hard to climax at all and I noticed her quim was a lot larger than I had ever encountered one night I managed to get my fist in her without her knowing she said darling you could at least of taken that ring off your finger I replied that's my wrist watch boy do we still laugh about it now. We have managed to find a medium size industrial fire extinguisher that brings her off to perfection if she needs hurrying up I can usually slip a tv remote up her rear passage that never fails. (50-59 year old male)
326. I am 50 years old. I don't feel sex at all. my sugar, thyroid, and blood pressure are well controlled by medecine. I want sex but I don't. are my medecine causing problems? (50-59 year old female)
327. I always feel that the couple or the man should make sure the woman reaches an orgasm or is close to it before the man finally cums. I feel ths way because a man will always reach his clmax so he should be patient and enjoy the pleasure of seeing his woman excited, pkeasured, feeling good and cumming and maybe it will intensify his pleasure and orgasm. (50-59 year old female)
328. Its easier come when I'm alone than with a partner.... (20-29 year old female)
329. I really want to try to consult a doctor or something but in my case I'm having a lesbian partner which is not that welcome to my country.. i really want to feel that satisfaction..had a previous relationship with a same gender and it feels good but know I just don't know.. so desperate :'( (20-29 year old female)
330. Im at my wits end.. Are we talking clitorial.or internal g spot Os here? (40-49 year old female)
331. I can climax easy with a vibrator.my fingers.his fingers.his tongue..iv climaxed about 6 times during my sleep.without touching myself and not necsearily a dirty dream.the most powerfullest ones may i add.but have never had an internal orgasm during sexual intercourse to my knowledge.i can ejaculate by myself with fingers but really not sure if it is..its white sometimes n sometimes clear n sometimes yellow .im confused as i ejaculate wiv no feeling of orgasm from anywhere..i also do not lubricate and feel its a failure to use lube..i admit iv held back wen i felt the urge to pee and even left the bed to go toilet.now realising i shud have carried on..iv cried tears n moaned n wailed during penetrative sex but never soaked the bed or felt a g spot orgasm..am i normal..i feel like a sexual failure..it took 10 years and many partners to concieve and i put it down to this problem.i now have two kids n thought i wouldnt be able to have natural births but both were perfect easy births.6hours n 2hours..gas n air puts u in the same state of mind as orgasm i think and the only way baby comes out is if you go with ur body.i feel imature and un womanly..am i normal..i dont feel it..im single now and think this is the reason why. (40-49 year old female)
332. My ex knows How to please me but my new bf jus penetrates and he has a bigger penis so it hurts sometimes. Idk how to tell him. he is use[d] to girls having multiple orgasms. (20-29 year old female)
333. Could never reach orgasm through intercourse only oral or masturbation. could never orgasm with boyfriend simultaneous like I wanted till the finger tip vibrator came on tv I bought one and since its not bulky I use it during intercourse and WALLA! [voila?] (40-49 year old female)
334. but he never does help. [She says climaxing is "very" important and "very" difficult"] (40-49 year old female)
335. It can take me hours to climax and I sense that it upsets him. Just don't know what do. (20-29 year old female)
     ♥  Learn how to pleasure yourself and incorporate it into sex with you partner. If he refuses...DUMP HIM, if he will not support you in having a healthy and satisfying sex life TOO, I doubt he will give you anything else in life because it is all about HIM. Good Luck.
336. My wife not like to touch her clitoris even in foreplay. She want direct Intercource. (30-39 year old male)
     ♥  Cool! Does she cum?
337. am 18 yrs old nd recently started having sex wit diz amazin guy whom I luv xo much ...d problem is wheneva we hv sex I almost hv an orgasm ie I feel it coming bt den my bf does cum nd d nxt tin he does is sleepin it rilly pisses me off dat I dnt sleep cos I still hv dis urge for more sex nd wen I tell him he always says he is tired but I satisfy him well bt he has a hard time satisfyin me.... xo plz I rilly want an ORGASM (18 year old female)
338. my partner never climax with me inside her not unless I rub or suck her cittorus will she climax (30-39 year old male)
339. My gf is very particular about positioning and mood. She has to be relaxed just right, and she has to spread her legs just right, and then I have to rub or penetrate her in a particular way (gentle flicks and massages along her pussy lips, or slow repeated thrusts) in order for her to come. Added lubrication helps a lot. (40-49 year old male)
340. Sex gets better the older I get I just wish I could an even better job for my wifes orgasm We have not had penetrative sex for 20 years because my wife cannot. (70+ year old male)
341. Very annoyed my husbands sucks. I'm going to find someone who wants to please me and not feed his sick porn habit. (20-29 year old female)
     ♥  Porn is RAMPANT in this country and it is destroying our men by degrees. A little can be somewhat stimulating, but men are getting addicted to it, and they are translating male oriented fantasy entertainment into a reality by making their women reinact porno scenes and sex acts because they NEED it in order for them to get excited and get off. MANY of my guy friends have confided in me that they are having this problem. Guys in the 50 year old range are suffering erectile dysfuncion(ED) because of this issue too...no joke, very serious.
342. When My boyfriend asks me if I want to have an orgaasm I usually respond with a "no" and that usually leads to an argument...I feel like my body doesn't really "urge" to cum? (20-29 year old female)
343. Im trying help my husband he gets so upset about not being able to make me finish, u tell him all the time its not him, i cant do it even by my self. It hurts him so much but i dont know what to do teach myself how to climax, i guess im one of those 5% that cant do it.. (20-29 year old female)
     ♥  His ego is getting in the way. Unfortunately some men think it's their responsibility to make a woman climax. Maybe if he stopped asking and [just] pleasures you it might just happen? The very act of asking creates unwanted pressure.
344. My partner uses a vibrator and gets off in less than 5 mins. However with me, it takes forever. I dare not try to compete with a vibrator. lol bc she has been using it years before we met. I don't mind her getting it with a vibrator, however I'm curious to know, if that has an effect on how often she has an orgasm with me. I'm not a selfish lover but i refuse to go on for long periods of time due to her being used to her toy. (30-39 year old male)
345. I want to have an orgasm but its not vital to me to have one and applying pressure doesn't help, but I still enjoy sex. (50-59 year old female)
346. in a sexless marriage but love sex. (70-79 year old female)
347. my husband cums very soon without satisfying me. (50-59 year old female)
348. I am the one with a problem climaxing. My wife will cum in no time at all. After she climaxes she wants to stop all together. I do not masturbate and I am left wanting more. My wife every now and again is amazed about the size of my testes. I am very active most time and I am the one who does almost all of the work. I came here in the hopes to find a way to be able to cum for her. She is getting upset more and more about it. She feels that she can not do anything for me. I want to learn to cum for us both. (30-39 year old male)
349. My partner NEVER allows me to stroke or rub her private parts. (50-59 year old male)
     ♥  Maybe you're doing it too hard? Women need softer soft then a penis. Other then that I'm not sure, I would let my husband have his hands down there all day if he wanted.
350. I can cum when I masturbate alone but strangely I get off imaging my boyfriend having sex with someone else and I catch him then I cum. But when I'm with him I cant cum it feel good and all but I just cant reach it....and for the record I would never do a a 3some or anything I couldn't handle that....I don't know why i get off on it in my mind. (40-49 year old female)
351. Sometimes I think I'm going to orgasm but then I think it's a pee I need. (female)
352. My boyfriend hates that l masturbate during sex but its the only way for me to reach a orgasm. How do l stop masturbating and still get or reach a orgasm? (30-39 year old female)
     ♥  I don't think he has the right to pressure you about this. It's normal for women to require manual help. He's being unreasonable.
     ♥ There is no position I can try & do that in that doesn't annoy my husband. Don't hold your breath if your waiting for him to change.
     ♥ Any man that resents a woman from having sexual enjoyment does not deserve to have a woman in his life, not until he grows up and becomes a better lover by being UNSELFISH!
     ♥  Get him to do it, but seriously... He's pretty lame for saying that. My husband thinks it's sexy when I rub my clit.
     ♥  I don't believe it is fair to call him selfish for wanting to be the reason you have an orgasm. The first dozen or so times I had sex with my girlfriend she didn't have an orgasm and it made me feel frustrated that maybe I wasn't attractive enough or big enough or maybe I was just awful at it. It makes me and I assume other guys feel good about themselves when they cause their partner to have an orgasm. Some guys are self-conscious too.
353. I have never had an orgasm, either with a partner or on my own. I am currently single and I masturbate a lot. It builds and builds and then ... nothing. It just stops feeling good. I don't enjoy sex very much. No matter how skilled and/or patient the partner is, it just does not feel as good as doing it myself and it feels good for a shorter period of time. Because of this, I prefer little to no foreplay and them to come quickly because otherwise it is just boring, unpleasant, uncomfortable, tiring and even painful. I'm 38 so I don't think this is going to change. (30-39 year old female)
     ♥  It might be that you put too much emphasis on orgasm and over think it. Making my girlfriend and previous girlfriends orgasm the first time required them to stop thinking about and focusing on the orgasm. I explained to them that if you can't orgasm I'm not pressuring you to orgasm, with a bit of time and less pressure, they had orgasms, not instantly but eventually. I made the most important point pleasure. I used a lot of build up as well, like sexual tension. After the first orgasm the rest become more and more easily. My girlfriend (now) never had an orgasm before with any of her partners and thought she couldn't achieve one, with time I allowed her to let go and focus on enjoyment, not orgasm and now she orgasms too much! Often she'll cum several times before I can which is a problem because it starts to get sensitive for her. Masturbating too much might also be a problem because you will disensitise your parts. I think the key is moderation. Don't make orgasm your goal, make intense pleasure your goal, maybe you'll have one.
354. My wife can orgasm at least twice and more during sexual intercourse We have sex almost daily and are very attuned to our needs sexually We can even discuss orgasms simultaneously while having sex Practice makes perfect and communicating is very important My wife has orgasms every time we have sex It is easy for her I just know the technique she does the rest I am 62 she 59 We both are healthy and have sex for at least 20 min a session She orgasms first quite quickly to release tension then she has a stronger orgasm second time around On top and variations are best. (30-39 year old female)
355. My bf doesn't do foreplay except I force him to but he satisfies me on bed bcs he genueily loves me, he has taken me to his home nd has me included in his future plans. (20-29 year old female)
356. In fact one of your ideas is the opposite for me; my boyfriend often waits TOO LONG to start having sex or fingering me, because he likes the anticipation, but this causes me to be annoyed as fuck if it goes on long enough, thereby removing or greatly reducing any possibility of a potential orgasm. However, it should be noted that my boyfriend often waits a VERY long time - such as a half an hour or even up to two hours at times!, before even TOUCHING me (after, for example, moving against me in the bed for this entire time). Your survey also has an odd question, that says g"How often are satisfied without orgasm?". And how can somebody possibly answer a question like that? You have said NOTHING of whether there is a psychic orgasm, how much love and slow ness has been involved in the six, whether or not you could personally feel your boyfriend's orgasm from his own perspective, whether or not the horniness level has been increased enough to make you interested to the point where you would have masturbated if you were alone, and nothing about whether it has taken enough time, if you did need one, for the horniness level to precede by the time your boyfriend gets up and/or you clean yourself etc., nor by how far it has receeded if so. If I had a psychic orgasm or felt my boy friend's orgasm personally and don't need a physical one because of that, does that count as I needed an orgasm or as that I didn't? Your survey needs to DRASTICALLY be improved before you can get any valuable or useful results. However, of course, is there much point to the survey anyway? Of course a man or boy will know if their girlfriend wants or needs an orgasm or not, since when she doesn't have one she will either ask for one, masturbate, or mention it at some point. (20-29 year old female)
357. I think my use of a vibrator on my own has affected my ability to come when having sex with my partner. (under 20 female who reports it's "impossible" to climax with a partner)
358. I'm not getting orgasm during sex even when my husband rubbing my clitoris. how can get orgasm? (30-39 year old female)
     ♥  He's not doing it long enough for you to get there, why not try a solo run and see how long it takes YOU to find an orgasm? Then at least you have something to share with him to try.
359. I want to do sex without women by sexy toys. (under 20 male)
360. I av dz exact problem. Only av orgasm wen i masturbate or rob is penis wit my vigina. It annoying and i cnt tel him, instead, i feel so numb n pains arnd ther after d sex. I love to c im enjoy it. Bt i also want to. I rili want a solution b4 i get married. (under 20 female)
361. I want her to reach an orgasm everytime we have sex ,I want her to enjoy when I'm also enjoying. I don't want to feel like I'm failing her in bed. (30-39 year old male)
362. I need to organism everytime we make love coz sometimes I don't. (under 20 female)
363. I find that in our relationship it is more difficult for me to orgasm. My girlfriend will often orgasm several times before I do. She gets frustrated if I make her cum too many times because she thinks it is unfair although I enjoy it. (under 20 male)
364. Would love to always reach orgasm. (20-29 year old female)
365. If women would stop faking orgasms to get a situation that's going nowhere over with, maybe more men would catch a clue. (40-49 year old female)
     ♥  AMEN!!! You said a mouthful!!! Women do themselves a tremendous disservice and to their guys by tolerating awful sex without orgasm, and perpetuating ignorance in letting the guy think that what he is doing is sending off rockets...he must feel like a fool finding out afterwards. Be honest up front and start being fair to guys too in sexual unions or they will never know how bad they really are! Gotta start somewhere. Of course this pertains to the men who actually care, many do not.
366. I love sex stright oral anul looking at her vagina ass and bust. I love thinking she enjoys all different types of sex loveing the taste smell and sharing it all with me. her fluids and mine. (70+ male)
367. he dont kiss me.. and he wont let me touch him down there..and he wont put his fingers inside me..idk why he pushes me head away.. the kissing we just dont kiss.. idk ladies what to do.. (female)
368. In past relationships (teens to early twenties), it was extremely rare that I climaxed during vaginal intercourse. I am in my late twenties now and in a long term relationship with a partner that I can honestly say that I love and want to be with. I have never had a problem with not having an orgasm with him. In fact, I orgasm before him nearly every time and he is a quick one. I don't know whats the difference that makes it this way, whatever it is, it's great. (female, 20-29)
369. i havent ever have an orgasm and i think somethings wrong with me! i think ive got close before but its never actually happened! it makes it hard because it upsets my boyfirend that he cant make me cum. (under 20 female)
370. i last for about 30 minutes per round and my girlfriend have countles orgams. am i normal? (20 -29 year old male)
371. I never enjoyed sex like I did. I climaxed to a point where I thought I was urinating. (20 -29 year old female)
372. I am a female divorcee who is going to be 49 years old next month. I very much enjoy foreplay and sex with my boyfriend who is a very experienced and attentive lover and has done things to me NO ONE has ever done before. So, I want to KNOW and UNDERSTAND how one minute I am wet and so excited and the next minute I've dried up-even though his finger stimulation, lips, mouth, and tongue are amazing and a major turn on - I still dry up. Even though I tell him he satisfies me COMPLETELY-which HE DOES-and just because I don't always have an orgasm when we make love, OR during foreplay - it STILL feels wonderful to ME. He says I'm a LIAR and there's no way it could, because I dry up and don't orgasm. Therefore, I'm cheating on him, someone else is satisfying me, I'm NOT attracted to him, and HE doesn't turn me on! Will someone PLEASE explain to both of us-what is wrong with me? (49 year old female)
373. My 73 year old girlfriend told me before we had sex that she rarely achieves orgasm. To the point where she tires from masturbation. It is important to me that she does. In particular I would like [her?] to have a squirting orgasm. I can last a long time and orally and manually stimulate her Clitoris and have been sexually active with her for 8 months and have not given her an orgasm. She says sex is great and has an adventurous attitude, she has never denied any of my advances. Help. (73 year old male)
374. Very horny most of the time. (40 - 49 year old female)
375. it's not easy to reach my climax when I'm with my man but when I'm alone it comes quick and easy.
376. Having an orgasm has always been easy until now. I'm 52. (52 year old female)
377. I never enjoy sex before but if I rub ma nipples I will enjoy it a lot. (20-29 year old female)
378. I have faked orgasm with my husband for 20 years. I finally told him and sex still isn't great. It is better but not great. At least he tries to last longer than 30 seconds now. Never gave me oral sex for 20 years even though I gave it to him regularly. Now he reciprocates about once a month. I can orgasm from oral sex about 50% of the time. (40-49 year old female)
     ♥  I was married to a sexual dud for twenty years. It got so terrible and to the point that he never bothered touching me, I had to get myself wet for him to enter...then tally Ho, off to the races we go. I got rid of the hubby 18 years ago and bought a top of the line vibrator...never been happier! :)
379. Ladies if you have never experienced an orgasm you don't know what you're missing, I have an orgasm 100% of the time. You can't just lay there, you have to move your hips and throw it back. The only thing I hate is I orgasm too quick, but I can have 2 or more orgasms. I don't have to tell my partner how I want it, he can read my body by my movements. Oh yeah I forgot to mention that I had a hysterectomy but still have great sex. (40-49 year old female)
     ♥  Some females cannot orgasm at all - ever. This is a real condition. Whike I'm sure most women would love to be able to all the time, most cannot.
380. Having problem having orgasm with vibrator, any suggestions? (60-69 year old female)
     ♥  Overuse in one session can cause numbness to your clit's nerve endings. If that happens stop for a while until the sensitivity returns, and then do not put it directly on your clit, use it to the side or higher or lower around it so you can still feel the vibrations, but it will be less intense. YOU GO GIRL!! :) Another healthy sex positive lady!
381. now that I'm older, it seems much harder to reach orgasm than it had been. I'm wondering why and what I can do to improve the situation. (70+ female)
     ♥  Female hormones deplete with the onset of aging and menopause. Dryness as well can be an issue along with low sex drive. Check out some homeopathic remedies.
382. I deliberately didn't answer all questions because I'm a virgin and I just don't know what my needs or responses would be. I hope this helps you understand. (60-69 year old female)
383. if i dont reach an orgasm i feel just used! and it doesnt mean nothing. just a great waste of my t i m e! just forget doing it! (60-69 year old female)
384. GOD SAYS ITS A SIN TO A MASTERBATE. AND TO BE ANYTHING ELSE BESIDES A MAN AND A WOMEN. A HE FOR A SHE! AND A SHE FOR A HE! SO IM ALL WOMAN! (60-69 year old female who says it's very important and very difficult to climax)
385. To all you women saying that your men can't make you cum and you can do it in 5 min - why don't you stop masturbating? You are all probably just conditioned to the feeling of your own fingers. Since you have all just ever cum from your own hand what do you expect? Your body is used to a certain sensitivity, pressure, motion etc. Go for a few days without masturbating and then when your guy touches you, you might be so horny you'll come right away? What have you got to lose?
     ♥  We lose having an orgasm because guys unfortunately think like you - they all have magic penises that can produce female orgasm via intercourse. Men need to stop watching porn and pick up a good resource on female sexuality. But it scares them and challenges their masculinity to know the truth that the vagina does not produce female orgasm, it is the clitoris...and many of these guys use it only in foreplay only. Use this guy's answer as an example for what women should not walk away from, they should RUN! Unless you have won an academy award in faking orgasm, avoid having sexual relations with a man who thinks like this! Clueless and selfish....bad combo.
     ♥  Why don't you stop masturbating then I'll give you a orgasm with nothing but ball stimulation.
386. I have never, in my life (and I am 26) had an orgasm. Ideally I'd like to experience it at least once...but they say you can't miss what you never had and sometimes I don't get what the fuss is about! I get turned on and I like sex, although I think of it more as a sensual experience (like having a pampering bath...which we do together sometimes and satisfies me just as much). Do I just have a problem with the nerve endings down there?! I really don't think my partner's skill/consideration/patience is the issue; I've masturbated for 10 years with a variety of toys and never climaxed from that either. I've also been known to drop off during sex/masturbation, although it's not because I was bored or fed up...something about it feels very soothing?? The bf seems concerned and I don't think he's enjoying the sexual aspect of our relationship very much. :( In fairness I don't think I would in his position. (20-29 year old female)
     ♥  http://www.dodsonandross.com. Dodson website on female sexuality. Get busy and find yourself some pleasure for crying out loud!
387. I am starting to be bothered by not reaching an orgasm because my partner thinks he's not meeting my sexual needs as a woman. Therefore I also feel the need to reach an orgasm. (20-29 year old female)
     ♥  And what have you done to teach or show him how to pleasure you? Are you waitng for him to just guess? Two way street ladies...when a guy shows genuine interest SHOW HIM, and if you do not know yourself, find out then share it with him. Women who withold information to guys are only spreading the ignorance that is already out there and causing this sexual awareness problem.
388. I like him to lick my clitores with his soft tonque and rub my pussy with his tonque toes.also like to lick my nipple till my satisfication. B ut my friend statrt fucking with 1-2 mins foreplay his penis is hard and ready to shoot therefore he spread my legs and put on shoulder and insert his penis within a couple of. Minitus he himself ejaculat. And not care about partner on bed whether she were hot or not but his main aim and object is to insert his penis as and when it is errect. (20-29 year old female)
389. My husband is fully satisfied during sex. He gets orgasm within two minutes leaving me frustrating. I have to masturbate to get orgasm. I am not happy with my husband. (40-49 year old female)
     ♥  Get a vibrator..not a dildo. I was 43 when I had my first orgasm, and after being married 3 times! Believe me, get yourself a vibrator, and soon you will experience heaven in 5-7 minutes.
     ♥  Why not tell him to stop being a lazy lover and have him do something that you enjoy as a sexual pleasure...what a switch that would be, right? Grow a backbone and tell him you are very dissatisfied with the lame sex. Good Luck.
390. I'm not in a relationship right now which is why I chose that I have sex less than once a year. When I am in a relationship I have sex on average 5 x's per week. And I would orgasm everytime we had sex other than the rare interupton or some other unusual circumstance. (50-59 year old female)
391. No man ever bothered to try and give me an orgasm. The clitoris was merely a foreplay tool for guys to get me wet to the race for intercourse. After fifty years I finally gave up on sex. I got divorced after 20 years of crappy sex, bought a vibrator, I can have three climaxes within five minutes! Who needs 20 minutes??? Sorry guys, you shoot blanks for us gals these days when you should soak up credible information instead of porno movies! I think in this day and age you men are still selfish and clueless in bed. Women are hip today too faking all over the place, and you still think we enjoy porno style intercourse...we tell all our girlfriends, laugh and make fun of you kind of guys, knowing that sharing knowledge with you is a waste of time because you don't follow advice for either stupidity or not caring...I think both, you think all your women are climaxing...no they aren't! The younger girls today are far meaner than my age group, they tell all. I really don't get it, why even when women tells you what works, it's still the same menu at rabbit run at the stale old intercourse. I doubt it will ever change until men realize women LOVE sex....but we love GOOD sex and guys that don't bother to be good in bed, you are sadly not in their scope for a long time lay.....too bad, I suppose. You will never replace a vibrator. Speaking from my own personal experience and of many aged femalesinterested to read others. (60-69 year old female)
     ♥  Yep, I love sex, glad I got a man who knows how to rub my clit.
392. She: O during I 1 time - I don't know what I did/didn't and she couldn't tell me. Os almost every time, both of which I hate, including on me. (male) [Editor: the meaning of the end part is obscure.]
393. I have been married for 50+ years to the same woman, after the difficult birth of our only son 2 years into our marriage,it was revealed that due to complications she would not be able to conceive again. We were devastated at the time, and that our sexual activity was ended.Life still had to carry on, she could not have sex of any kind,and 50+ years later,I still needed to find satisfaction. How should I have behaved in the circumstances? (70+ year old male)
     ♥  I cannot imagine you waited that long, but if that is true, go for it! You should make your wife understand there are needs that you have and require sexual outlet...that you want to share with her and nobody else because you love her. Sex does not = intercourse! There is a whole host of ways to enjoy it together orally, manually, mutual masturbation, toys......all you need to do is communicate honestly and lovingly with her...might surprise you if she's interested as well but didn't know how to discuss it. Good luck!
394. My gf is OK with not cumming PROVIDED I give her a good massage. In fact, often the best approach is for me to give her a good massage first. That relaxes her and gets her hot, so I proceed to finger her. Often she'll her cum before I do -- which is the best approach. But if I penetrated her before she cums, I'd probably cum first. Often it's too much work for her to cum, especially if she's recently cum or is tired, and then she's OK with not cumming. (50 - 59 year old male)
395. I believe women have so much trouble having orgasms because of societies morals that make most women who enjoy sex believe they are bad women, just because they enjoy it. (70+ male)
396. Although I masterbate alone quite often, I still cannot make myself have an orgasm without using my vibrator. By playing wiith my clit, my husband can make me have one by palyiny with my clit and it frustrates me. I'm 40 years old now and still never been able to, why? (40-49 female)
     ♥  You sound completely normal. Why should it frustrate you that you need clitoral stimulation? Penetration is insufficient for most women.
397. I am very frustrated when I am close to orgasm and my husband gets orgasm before me. After that he is totally off and does not help me get mine. (20-29 year old female)
398. When he goes soft before I cum he either gives me oral, he fingers me until I cum, or I rub my clitoris until I cum. Cumming is what sex is all about for me! (under 20 female)
399. I used to enjoy sex with my husband. now I flat put hate it. He thinks that because he's done I'm done. He never helps me reach orgasm, so afterwards I always have to go to the bathroom and do it myself. I am so fed up with it.
400. Ever since having my second child my ability to climax has deminshed and its very frustrating as my husband thinks its him and its causing problems in the bedroom so much that we have decided not to do it anymore. (20-29 year old female)
     ♥  Did you have any body changes like weight gain or scars that you feel self conscious about? If so do something about it, the weight will not usually go away on its own. Seek a psychologist to talk to if it is all mental. If NOT, it could be hormonal or just being tired rearing a baby, they take up a LOT of energy.
401. The rule in our house is that we're not done till mama's done :) Good for you championing womens' right to have as much fun as their partners! On questions 14 and 15, I would include the option "Always" because clitoral stimulation before, during, and if necessary, after, is a necessary part of our lovemaking, and I doubt we're alone. Cheers :) (40-49 year old male)
     ♥  Wow I like the idea of the rule we are not done until she is done "love love love" even if it takes the whole day hmmmmmmm.
402. The problem is that she loves having it in there, especially when I slide it in and out a certain slow way, from a certain angle. And then she squirms and moans and asks me not to take it out. But those motions are precisely the ones that make me cum. (20-29 year old male)
403. I am a happy stay at home wife after three babies; nursing my baby makes me feel so feminine, and my husband is so caring and appreciates my womanhood! I feel so sexy having vaginal sex, and always enjoy him ejaculating inside me. As it releases out of my vagina I feel beautiful 1. (30-39 year old female)
404. I'm blessed with a woman 8 years younger who loves good sex and enjoyed orgasms. Mostly through me giving her oral. She never cums without stimulation but she doesn't demand it either. I do get concerned that she likes sex hard and fast and I'm almost 50 so I'm not sure how much of that I got left in me. (40-49 year old male)
405. Why am i not getting wet again before sex? am always too dry that my husband find it hard to penetrate. my marriage is only 3months. (20-29 year old male)
     ♥  I think you should visit a gynecologist to make sure there's no physical problem. But you can also use over-the-counter lubricant (containing glycerin and propylene glycol). It works well.
406. My sex life is boring. my husband does the same thing all the time. I've asked him to talk to me, tie me up, get forceful with me. I love that. I have told him exactly what I want and I still get the same old thing. I'm bored with our sex life. My sex drive is way higher than his. It's been this way since the first time I has sex, there's not much I won't do or try but I can't get him to do anything. He loves Porn he even watch's it on his phone so is it me? (40-49 year old female)
     ♥  No, it's his problem for watching porn.
407. My girlfriend and I usually have to work to make her cum. 20 minutes or a half hour usually. But once we did it in the back seat of my car and then she came in a couple of minutes. (Reminds me of the scene from Woody Allen's Everything You've Always Wanted to Know about Sex But Were Afraid to Ask). And another time, she got stoned and came fast and hard too. (40-49 year old male)
408. I only climax only when am on top. (20-29 year old female who reports that climaxing is "very important")
409. Please help me out. (30-39 year old female)
     ♥  Help you with what? You need to give more information.
410. I need help so that I can reach climax. I will enjoy sex more than ever before (20-29 year old female)
411. I am 49 1/2 and in the last month I have had 2 orgasms in my sleep. why? (40-49 year old female)
412. I reali want to enjoy sex with my partner but I feel he comes too quik. (20-29 year old female)
     ♥  How about getting him to delay penetration and to touch you until you're ready to come?
413. Will be 49 in April and did not have my first orgasm until I was 36... no knowledge of how a womans body works and obviously the men I had been with did not either. I appreciate this.... I think it important for discussion and education. Women are meant to enjoy sex as much as men and yes it takes more knowledge and effort. It still is difficult for me to reach orgasm. Tried many things. Next step will be seeing doctor or sex therapist. It is important to me as a woman and to my partner. (40-49 year old female)
414. These days we don't have much sex. (40-49 year old male)
415. It bugs me that its not as easy for men as it is for wommen. [Did she mean to say the opposite? She posted her version twice, on two separate days.] (20-29 year old female who reports climaxing is "very" difficult)
416. i hav sm problem. tht is without doing intercourse nd watchng porn or widout oral sex m suffering the leaking problm. smtimes its enuough just lyk tht m reachng finalism organism. after tht m suffering very much pain in backache. (20-29 year old female)
     ♥  You should see a doctor if you have much pain.
417. With my legs close while having sex r with my legs closed Whi he sucks my clit i will get a.powerful climax one which brings me to tears everytime and after which i go straight to sleep. (40-49 year old female)
418. I masturbate in the bath to relax. My husband thinks I never masturbate and I would never let him know that I do. I don't want him to know because on those occasions I masturbate, I don't need or want the pressure of sex. (40-49 year old female)
419. I still like to feel a cock sliding into me and cuming. (70+ female)
420. My man have smal penis but he do his things. (20-29 year old female)
421. I never reach organism I usually fake its to make him feel happy,I don't knw the feeling of organism. (20-29 year old female)
422. I get aroused and very close to orgasm but never get fullfilled..... playing with my self on my own is how I come but when I play with my self with him or around him I still don't Come... maybe once in a while.... I want to come when my partner does and I have never experienced that... it's very frustrating so I always fake it.... it's very very frustrating. ... (20-29 year old female)
423. I don't see the big deal about reaching an organism if you and your partner are both enjoying the sex?!?! (30-39 year old female)
424. I am 32 y.o married man. My wife is a housewife now since we have one kid and a baby 1,5 y.o. Her average orgasm rate is twice mine. She comes in 9 out of 10 intercourses, that 1 left out is when she's not in her mood or either of us too tired. On that 9, she averagely reaches orgasms twice and rarely thrice so that's where the rate come from. It was not that easy in the beginning since we come from "woman-pleasure-limiting" culture. I have to tear down that cultural beliefs to bring her confidence to take control while also maintaining my manly pride (well I'm just a normal man) that I can satisfy her while also having my manly satisfactions myself. I've tried oral, fingering, position this and that, slow and fast, rough and soft and at that time the success rate was around 10-20% which meant I have no clue how to satisfy her since what made her come once didn't work the second time. Average intercourses took 30 mins of thrusting which is very tiring for both of us (especially me since I did a lot with little success). But in the process, I brought her many clues about those pleasures and she then knew what kind of ecstasy waiting to be reached. Things get easier when she started to take control and I began to realized there's a sex monster inside her (and probably in every female). Her orgasms were (and are) 3-4x more intense than mine, longer, harder, and multiple. From what little I knew about her favorite penis thrusts and what she does when in control, I perfected my "giver-style". She likes hard erections, deep thrusts, medium speed (faster as it goes) and strong pubic pressure. I'm sorry to say this guys but size does important (mine is 13 cm [5.1 in], her height is 155 cm [5' 1"]). In contrary to what most woman said, she doesn't really like too long of foreplay and always pulling me to penetrate whenever I start fingering her. So if your woman prefer oral and fingering, it's mostly because their "bigger and manly" option doesn't work for them, which also meant that it can be changed. Even nowadays with my perfected thrust, I still rarely make her orgasm when in missionary. But it brings her closer. We then switched to woman on top where she takes control by hyper-grinding me until climax. Often I take back control when she's nearly climax and give her her favorite thrusts. That way, she would be less exhausted by her orgasm and that is important since after 3-10 seconds, I can give her her second and rarely her third. Sometimes I give it in one-long-orgasm type of around 40-50 secs. Sometimes I take all the control while she kisses me up until her multiorgasms. Now, average sex time is 30 mins including foreplay. On contrary to what most have written, her session usually only take 5-15 mins, sometimes seconds when she's really in the mood but i think premature orgasms is ok. My manly session takes 1-3 mins and sometimes seconds afterwards (again, I'm just a normal man). To make this comment balance, she limits her orgasms count so she can have some strength to grip me when I ejaculate which is heavenly satisfying. It took sometimes for her to perfect her amazing vaginal grip and in restraining herself to take control of my few orgasmic thrusts or to do other dangerous stuff while I ejaculate like tapping my balls. I hope I can encourage the couples to keep trying. It was not as easy as it sounds and surely took longer than just some intimate sessions. Fortunately, as any other skills, it can be mastered. The pleasures are worth the walk but the intimacy and relationship is best. And as you can see by how many words "manly" I typed, I'm a proud man in this particular field. (32 year old male)
     ♥  Oh, man! My gf saw your little essay and now she's demanding that I last longer. She says she prefers my penis to my finger and if I can keep thrusting she'd come.
425. I nver reach orgasm cz he finishez quivkly i end up faking it just to make him feel like a man Im feel like a man. (20-29 year old female)
426. I was married to a man who demanded sex every night, including oral sex on him. If we didnt have sex, we fought about it all night. Him saying yes, me saying no. I finally left that marriage, and have never been happier. I am with a very wonderful and giving man who respects that No means no. I have never achieved orgasm in either relationship. I have masturbated before marriage, so I know what it feels like. I feel as if I have been ruined. (60-69 year old female)
427. It's funny how all these guys say they can't last more then a minute. My husband has no problem delaying his orgasm, he slows down or stops and rubs my clit or whatever if he gets too close but for the most part he doesn't have a problem. So ladies stop taking that sad excuse for not helping you orgasm. I showed my husband what to do, so now he knows how to rub my clit right and I always come during our love making. I love it when he teases me by not touching my clit and gets me super aroused with other stuff until my clit is screaming for stimulation then he rubs it with lots of lube, yum! (20-29 year old female)
428. What amazes me is that even after all these years, sex never fails to be fresh and interesting. Each time is unique. Each time there are different angles, motions and sensations. (60-69 year old male)
429. Sometimes my gf takes forever to come. She wants me to thrust hard, and I can do it for a while, but after an hour of foreplay, massages, fingering, and thrusting, we sometimes give up if she doesn't come. (40-49 year old male)
430. I have to play or let him lick me or finger me to reach an organism. Its difficult. With my ex I used to reach 3 organism in 1 round but his penis was much more smaller than my partners. I feel worthless its not nice... (20-29 year old female, who reports climixing is very hard)
431. I really need help..im now frustrated. (30-39 year old female)
432. im dry and cnt orgasm, and i feel its because of being uncomfortable (20-29 year old female)
     ♥  Have you tried lube?
433. I feel nothing but painfulness during sex is this normal for a non virgin? (20-29 year old female)
     ♥  No, it's not normal. You should see a doctor, or at least try lube.
434. I find it hard to reach orgasm when am penetrated, but very easy when I masturbate. Am I ok? (20-29 year old female)
     ♥  Yes, quite normal. Read the discussion above.
435. Am a woman and I feel satisfaction only when I climax (20-29 year old female)
436. I am a 43 year old woman and a couple of months ago, my orgasms have begun to last for several minutes instead of several seconds and this began on an anniversary getaway. My marriage is extremely intimate and loving. While my husband and I are very thankful for this new development, I was trying to do research on this to see how common this is. (40-49 year old female)
     ♥  Great! Did you do anything different that might have led to this development? Perhaps you can help others, make money, and become famous by writing about your techniques.
437. add me girls i will do very good organasm as u want. Email me at .... (20-29 year old male)
438. I am a sex addict. I lost my virginity to a guy who was always hot in bed. Always knew what to do and we would last hours having sex. He was that good he could cum up to ten times in one night! It made me feel like a woman and i was obsessed with him. I believe mostly because of the amazing sex. I would have multiple orgasms in seconds. I loved every thing about our sexual life. I am now married to someone else amd sadly it is the most lame awkward weird feeling sex ever. I often close my eyes and pretend its someone else . I am always frustrated with my marriage and sexual life. I have gotten to even hate the thought of sex. It weirds me out really bad. I think i love him but i dont wnjoy sex with him:(. In 31 years i never knew how to do natural masturbation since I could never understand my clitoris. But today i finally understood my body! I hope this helps my current frustrating situation. (30-39 year old female)
439. i enjoy sex some of the time, without an orgasm. Truth be told I could live without sex because I come easily by myself. I don't come during sex with my boyfriend, so I just take care of myself later. It's not a huge deal because I still climax. (40-49 year old female)
440. My feonsay usual cums 5 to 8 Times to my one i can make her cum sucking on her neak on both side's then kiss down to her nipples and make her cum 2 more times then kiss down to her pussy and eat it till she cums and then make love till she cums and eat her till she cums again and she may cum 8 or more times and then we usually cum at the same time and if her legs arnt shaking i dont fill like i did my job right the most she has ever came in one evening is 26 times and i did 3. (30-39 year old male)
441. My ego is probably the size of Russia because I can give my girlfriend an orgasm if not more than one (I don't mean to brag (yes I do) but my record is six) with little effort on my part. I feel so lucky to have met a girl that is usually hornier than I am. (under 20 male)
     ♥  Hate to break it to ya dude. Your girl is faking it. Typical comment in your age group. If she's screaming seconds after you penetrate her it's not real.
     ♥  You would think but trust me on this. It doesn't take only a few thrusts and I know she isn't faking.
     ♥  My ex-girlfriend came easily too. after just a few thrusts. My current gf takes a long time.
442. At age 70+ we r all about oral & masturbation (although we use the real words) with a little a Anal-I lick hers, she uses vibrating dildo one. (70+ male)
443. I don't release while having sex or masturbation. I don't know what is wrong. is it normal? am 18 years old. (18 year old female)
444. Would do more for her if she wanted more. (30 - 39 year old male)
445. Recently my wife has been asking me to bang her hard. She never used to ask for that (we've been married for over a decade). She says it stimulates nerves around her opening. She asks for it only after she's gotten aroused. We found out that another way to stimulate those nerves is for me to grind against her pubic bone at the bottom (top?) of each stroke, when my hips are pressed out. It makes her moan and is erotic for me too. (40 - 49 year old male)
446. I come with very few men, and it happens by luck not knowing, and the most difficult thing is that i don't see them again. cos am a gud sex buyer. my husband don't satisfy me. the boy friend i have atlist does, with kissing caressing but still yet never makes me reach my organ i hate that. i have this feeling, i love women, my girl friend initiated me to this ever since then a woman makes me reach my organ more than a man thoes. but i hate such ungodliness thats why have not participated in lesbianism again. sometimes am scared is an illness. (20 - 29 year old female)
447. i wnt 2 know the feeling of orgasm. My husband tried 2 make me reach orgasm many times but failed. He tried having longer rounds and its been 14yrs now and still I dnt no how it feels to reach orgasm. (30 - 39 year old female)
448. I lost my virginity when I was 18, even then I could never get an orgasm. Now I am still trying to achieve that and it's really difficult, I'm still a little out of experience but I know enough and I mean i want to tell them to play with me or give them some kind of hint that I need help but I'm too afraid, I always tank that it would offend them or something. Is that kind of wrong? (under 20 female)
     ♥  Why would it offend them? If they're offended, educate them, or find another lover. I think you should tell them what you want, and they should be kind enough to help you.
449. In 42 years of marriage my wife allowed only 200 times of intimacy; she had an affair weeks before we wed, with a much older guy. It did set us off wrongly because she enjoyed him but found me a bit mechanical and always gave excuses. I just put up with it - I am unaware of whether she cheats and in the last 10 years we have had separate rooms and no sex. Her company do's [?] she attends alone and has a room booked away for herself. She often stays away overnights for her job but i see no signs of anyone else - but it seems like the waste of to [two?] lives from my perspective - why she withheld sex - well she will say its because she felt unattractive and thought i could have done better at my age. Now it's probably not worth worrying about. (60 - 69 year old male)
450. The female body wasn't meant to orgasm. (50 - 59 year old female)
451. I try to train my man to take his time. If he could last long enough, I would cum from penetration and from his rubbing his penis against my clit. The soft, velvety tip feels better than a finger. But he says that's too stimulating, so we our fingers. Once, though, we did it in the backseat of a car in a park, I came really fast. (40 - 49 year old female)
452. She is at the point of orgasm, when she gets strong leg cramps and we have to stop. We try to continue but she is afraid of getting another cramp. (male)
453. I love sex but I am insecure about size because ex even though made sure she was happy to the point of ask me enough after coming so hard so long! But that wasn't enough! I also loved her but that wasn't enough, even after multiple forgiveness , but that wasn't enough, even after trying every way known to man, but that wasn't enough! Never a cheater to my woman, but that wasn't enough, confident in know how to actually have sex with any woman I desired, after finding out that women were turned on by just my demeaned and looks, rubbing my body to stimulate my senses, which I totally get a rise out of and once know she wants me I get her and she gets me too! Always never ask her first but I can telepathically seduce a woman I want, but also know how to get even with no money! I am still able to even get younger women, limit to no less than thirties depending on maturity, and qualities comparable at least they are receptive! I know how to turn women on, somehow, they actually have told me that they know that I can eat them better than anyone they see, and I know that, and somehow they seem to know! Even ask me out of the blue to ifI wouldKiss them, and After they bluntly ask me to fuck them, which of I do, I have kissed women and they sound like they are having an orgasim, can this be true? I am manly but sensitive, I love sex, and the naked beautiful body of the female, of course site is important too! To make story shorter very much more to say, oh, and only like women that don't fake it, and none because O know faked it, because I know! I can stay hard after ejculation, to give my partner, multi organisms for as long as it take her to say enough, though now, find my delima, I am the same boy I used to be with all the same drive,only way wiser, but also dumb, in certain areas, not a know it all, still have stamina, guess 500 push-up a day when younger helped with a lot and but now 60yrs. young and showing more than I feel! Life is to short but if it was my choice I would be having sex, till my average size, but beautiful, another partner after divorce told me, has said, vaginal pleaser fell off! Well what I want to know is it possible that there may be another woman that would through down, almost anywhere, of course discreetly, washmachine, table, where ever I could and positions, and light kinky sex, that was the only thing my ex did, and know most men would envy, she also was not loyal though, a turn off! I am now truly finished trying to love that woman but waisted my life and My resources! Always fight and come back though hindered by drag me down situations ex caused like putting us in debt, and alor of no shame in my game attitude, alcoholic home wrecker! I am needing help to get back on my feet, though still a hard worker, I made bad decisions being forgiving even after several same incidences, it destroyed me as, I have brought down, but I get knocked down, but I don't stay down, cause a good man will not stay down, but I need the sincere love of a Woman that will help me recover, not a baby, but been wounded to death, or atleast, heart torn to pieces, because of a foolish heart! Is their a woman that would even desire me now, or am I done as far a they are concerned? Also have nothing must love, I lost every thing! So fear I will never know real love, my greatest loss! I will not do prostitute, not for me! Real lover is all I need, not even expecting, to ever have though, but must be a women that wants to be loved, somewhere! I feel though I will buckle, to a woman with my desirable, physical attributes, having same desire sexually, and like minded! Never had this! Wow, I guess I am really lonely! (60 - 69 year old male)
454. My girlfriend says she's given up on me trying to make her cum. If I try to do it, it will take too and long and likely lead to frustration for both of us. She can do it by herself later in under one minute. (60 - 69 year old man)
455. My partner wants to proceed to penetration right away, and he asks me if his moves are pleasurable. It's pleasurable for him, so he figures that it oughta be pleasurable for me. I tell him that it's not pleasurable unless he first arouses me by foreplay on my clit. He says that some women enjoy vaginal intercourse right away. I told him that I suspect they're lying and faking it. (50 - 59 year old woman)

See also: Are you having trouble reaching orgasm? A guide for women .
What Do Women Really Want? New research challenges old ideas about female sexual desire.
The Truth About Female Desire: It's Base, Animalistic and Ravenous
The Orgasm Wars, which has some disturbing theories about orgasms and fake orgasms.
The Orgasm Gap: The Real Reason Women Get Off Less Often Than Men and How to Fix It

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